To want to eat something without having it to share it with dc?

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I have two dds. DD1 is 5 and DD2 is 2. Even if they have finished their lunch, and I go and get something to eat, e.g a Marmite rice cake deliberately getting food they might not like they will make their way over and beg/ scream until I give them a bit.
When until I have to stop hiding around the corner to eat a piece of chocolate?
Or do you always share your food with your dc?

Can't you use this selectively when you want them to eat broccoli etc? Eat some in a secretive manner while making yummy sounds .... bingo, your kids won't be veg dodgers.

Like fuck am I sharing my food. It's mine. I give them their own. My three have never been allowed to take or beg for food from me so they wouldn't do it now (well my 11 yo might swipe a chip and run away laughing, or the others could take a bit out of my sandwich and laugh about an invisible sandwich monster who I invented, but they don't demand my food.

Say no. Get them used to it.

This is about snacking so like op I'm resigned to doing it in secret or when kids are asleep. If we're having something all at the same time like at dinner etc it's easy to explain that everyone has their own food. But with snacking, they quite rightly don't understand why it's ok for an adult to snack between meals but not for kids.

I have a 3 and a 4 year old and they know not to do this. I just used to say ‘no, this is mummy’s’. You can break this habit.

Also, it’s not mean to eat in front of them: mine have their own snacks and sometimes I want to eat something and they’re ok with that, no one is being deprived. I’m not being held hostage by Pre schoolers.

Not sure I'm understanding whats going on or what posters mean by saying 'their food, my food'

Are these scenarios about sitting at the table and everyone eating the same food and then an adult leaving the table to snack on other food?
Or does everyone have separate food from the start?

Just give them their own rice cake? Break it in half!

I have 6 aged 20-7 they know my food is my food I do not share - if I want to share I will offer if I don't I won't.
I've always found it easy to say no and be firm.
They are all loved and healthy happy kids not neglected but I just don't feel I have to give them everything.

My two year always wants what I have even if it's the exact same thing we are eating

Same as pp, one year old ds will go berserk to have some of whatever I've got, even if he has the exact same thing in his other hand, but he's never ever interested in dad's snack, only mine.

I've just sat and had half a pack of Doritos, whilst DS (4) was the other end of the sofa, he asked, I said no these are mummys and that was the end of it

No screaming, crying or nothing, he's not neglected or upset, he knows they are mine, same with everything else I eat when he's not eating

My son is 4 and he certainly doesn't scream/bag, however, if I am having something that he wants to try I will let him have a bit. He has developed a liking for a wide variety of food this way e.g. smoked salmon and mild curries.

He does understand though that sometimes he can't have what I am having and needs to eat his own.

Then we tell young children they must learn to share!

I don’t get why eating isn’t a family/sharing/social time, instead of one person eating and the other not!

I don’t get why eating isn’t a family/sharing/social time, instead of one person eating and the other not!

We should be teaching children that eating should primarily be for survival and good health, not a social event! This is one of the reasons there are so many overweight comfort-eaters (myself included)!

God I remember sharing my food with my mum (the end of my ice cream or the biggest chip on my plate). Never remember pestering her for hers.. she would have said no. 31 weeks pregnant at the moment and fully don’t intend on sharing all my meals children should learn this is yours and this is my food. Let’s see how I get on though

I don’t get why eating isn’t a family/sharing/social time, instead of one person eating and the other not

Because there should be no need to share food if everyone has plenty enough.

Legend doesn’t share foooood! (Joey voice)

I try and eat at the same time as Ds and eat the same stuff, if i want a treat or a snack i offer him some of what i have cos id feel mean otherwise. If i want something i dont want to share i have it in the kitchen or once he has gone to bed, i dont think it needs to be a battle. I dont mind him wandering over and asking for some of mine as he can be a picky eater so trying stuff from my plate is a bit of a winner for me but not for everyone i suppose

I just tell my ds that my food is spicy he soon retreats hehe

Don’t really understand why begrudging them a snack is an issue? I shared with mine. Now they share their stuff with me, happily, and don’t think twice about it

Sorry I mean I don’t see why you’re begrudging them a snack and I don’t see why sharing is an issue*

Just make sure you eat when they do, then you can share or eat different things depending on taste.

I don't remember ever asking to share my parents' food*, and I don't see my nieces doing it either. I might be in the selfish camp but I'm totally territorial about food and frankly unless they were actually starving or something I'd be teaching them a valuable life lesson i.e. get your mitts off my plate.
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My Mum would have given me every bite, I know that, I just never asked. Once when I was 15 she was eating Pineapple Hubba Bubba (this memory is so specific!) and I asked if she'd any more and she said "No but here." and literally took it out of her mouth and went to hand it to me 🤢 I was like "NO BLOODY THANKS!" and she was absolutely raging about how offensive it was to refuse as she was my mother but I was having none of it. Boke.

Bold fail

Ds has a dairy and gluten allergy so when we're eating that's what we tell him it has init. He understands and he is only 3 he does like to hold it for us and then feed us it think they just like to be involved Ghana