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School Mum

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louise5754 · 21/04/2018 21:05

Hi. I took my dd dancing this morning. Saw a Mum from school who I know to say hi to and chit chat about school but we aren't really friends. I said I was going to nip to boots / get a birthday card / some milk. I have anxiety and I don't go out all that much. I'm not sociable. School Mum says she will walk round with me. It's a small retail park. So we are walking and her partner is stood waiting with their baby in the pram. I've never spoken to him. I'm weird around people. He starts walking with us. They're chit chatting. I said I was going into get a card and they both came in. They weren't looking at cards but were just stood next to me. I walked up and down the isle and they still didn't move. I got my card and SM asked where I wanted to go next. Went to boots and they followed me onto every isle. I said if you want to get off that's fine I'll see them back at the dancing club. They both said they aren't in a rush. I never go shopping and I was actually feeling ok and proud that I'd gone out but I felt like I had to rush. These people don't know about my anxieties btw. They then saw a neighbour and stood chatting to him. So I kind of walked around ages hoping they would just walk out with him but they didn't. Just as I walked past the partner asked if I was ready to go. Then all 3 followed me out. I got milk and they waited for me outside and we walked back. All very strange. If they were friends who knew about my anxieties I would know why they did it but I hardly know these. I'm prob just over reacting it's been a long day. She was probably being nice.

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Fiera · 21/04/2018 21:09

Its your anxiety, they were just being friendly really.
I do understand how awkward and stressful it is.
Well done on going out though.
Its just one of those things really. They arent 'weird' people, They just didnt know

ISaidIWasTired · 21/04/2018 21:09

Er yes they were just being nice and friendly...

ShawshanksRedemption · 21/04/2018 21:10

I think your last sentence is right, she may have just wanted to chat with you and get to know you. If you don't want people following you like this you can say things like "I've got to do some shopping, so I'll catch you up back at dance school in 20mins or so", but then you could miss out on making a new friend.

northbynorthwesty · 21/04/2018 21:11

I think they were trying to be nice and friendly . They seem to like you:)

louise5754 · 21/04/2018 21:12

Ok thanks everyone.
Thanks for being kind 😃

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tiredybear · 21/04/2018 21:12

they were being friendly and nice. it would have been weird if they HADN'T waited for you once you'd gone off together.
Anxiety is SO awful. I hate those forced chit chats too.

Emilizz34 · 21/04/2018 22:03

It sounds like they’re friendly and wanted to get to know you . I completely understand that you felt awkward and anxious though ,

lardymclardy · 21/04/2018 22:12

I've lived many years in social anxiety central - I know how you feel.

They really were just being friendly and spending time whilst the children were dancing.

You did really well, maybe when you feel up to it you could suggest a coffee and a nibble whilst waiting.

I've outgrown my social anxiety now and realise that there isn't a massive flashing neon sign above my head blaring weirdo but that actually I'm okay and others can't see the inner turmoil and want to spend time with me.

The trouble is then I think they must be weird Grin one step at a time!

ittakes2 · 21/04/2018 22:27

It sounds like she is trying to make friends with you. You said she doesn’t know you have anxieties - you might not know she may also have anxieties and is trying to work out how to make new friends. My best friend was like this when I first met her - she was kind of joining me on mundane activities I guess to spend time with me - I was kind of thinking she must be bored...but she was/is just very shy. She has become one of the best friends now and is the kindest most generous person I know.

Homemenu1 · 21/04/2018 23:02

You did really well

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