AIBU- DH annoying me

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I'm due in about 3 months. When we decided to try for a baby DH promised me he would finish all the DIY projects in the house before the baby comes.

To keep a long story short, he is no where near half way through the projects (just finishing what we had already started, eg we have no flooring in our bathroom) because he is spending all his time doing hobbies.

I'm annoyed because he is constantly doing other things... he went out with friends last night, woke me up at 12am and I couldn't get back to sleep (nausea, retching, needing a wee etc) whilst he slept soundly (and I had to go to work today). Have just got back from work today and he has spent all day doing his hobby (nothing done around the house), also was out with his hobby on Weds eve and busy with friends on Thurs. Also doing his hobby tomorrow morning (again I have work).

I'm really annoyed at him because I feel like he is taking on more and more things for his hobbies (Eg he has just taken over running their website, going on a local committee, meeting up with new friends) and I'm stuck at home, feeling really unwell in a house that is no where near finished. Even tonight he said he would be back almost an hour ago.

AIBU to be annoyed at him!?

Yanbu.
I would pay to get the jobs done.
Unfortunately this is how it will be when your baby is born.
Good luck.

That suck OP. Have you told him how this is making you feel? Have you talked about his and your expectations when the baby arrives in terms of who will be doing what around the house? Or does he assume as you will be on maternity leave that you'll be doing all the house work as well as looking after a new born?

Adults having hobbies is just weird. Just tell him to man up and make the house ready for his child.

YANBU - I have found the old adage applies if you want something doing do it yourself - or as other posters have said - pay someone else. It gets worse when baby comes in my experience - today for example DH "recovering" from a night out went for a nap with the baby. We are mid renovation so I ended up going into the garage to have a good throw out and tidy up - moving settees/sofa beds / sorting tiles and hoofing bags of gypsum etc. DH has got up and said he was just about to do it - of course you were Dear you told me that 6 months ago

ok thanks, I didn't know if i was BU because I'm oversensitive atm (pregnancy hormones- joy).

He's just come back excited that he's covering yet another website for someone. I've told him, said it's really annoying me that the diy is not being done, that I feel like I'm going to be left alone with the baby whilst he goes off to do all his stuff.

initially he was a knob - said me talking to him about it was taking time that he could be doing the diy ... he has had ALL DAY and achieved nothing (except he has walked the dog to be fair).

Now he is being less of a knob and has started some DIY now... sweet of him but it's a bit late to start banging and crashing, we do have neighbours!!!!