In desperate need to vent & get advice please.
I’ve lived with my lovely partner for 11 years. We both come from large families (he only has two sisters one older one younger) his large family is made up of lots of aunts uncles and cousins so always lots going on and in our neighbourhood. Me or my partner are not on Facebook nor are we in any of the cliques that are prevalent. We also don’t have children so not involved at the community centre where all the invites are talked about or dished out. For about the last 8/9 years we are getting totally blanked when it comes to invitations to events and parties that we expected to be invited to and weren’t but we get on great with everyone. When it first started I began to suspect something shitty was going on, so I asked an old friend/neighbour who I’ve been really good to, why we weren’t asked to her wee ones communion and she said of course you were I gave xxxx your invitation as I was handing some out to the other mums at community centre and she xxxx said she’ll be going to her parents later and she’d either pop it through our door as she has to pass to get to parents 2 doors away or she’ll leave it in their house as my partner (her younger brother) is there every day tending to them. When I asked her about it she does this thing whenever anyone pulls her up on anything we’re she pretends she’s so forgetful or 3yrs old and try’s to act all cutesy and giggles whatmylike? She’s 50years old and wasn’t even cute as a baby. There’s loads of rotten things and we’ve literally caught her, as she stood speaking to one of her friends we happened to be there and we started chatting to the friend as we do, when friend says I’ll see yous Saturday then? for daughters 21st? I said we’d no idea about it and she says to partners sister I thought you said you’d given the invite weeks ago? Her face was beetroot but again the whatmylike shit. Anyway one of partners cousins husband)had a 40th about 6/7 weeks ago. We found out only due to a slip up by an auntie 2/3 weeks after the party! Most of partners family are spread over the city and the invite was on Facebook obviously unbeknown to us. This particular cousin is a brilliant lassie and knows we’re not on Facebook we know for a fact now she specifically asked his sisters to let us know. So gutted that even his mother and father who he tends to 7 days a week kept it secret from us as well. I’ve not been back in to his parents house since and I’ve managed to avoid the sisters and nasty(adult)niece so far but it’s making me feel sick enough to want to leave my partner just to take myself out of the picture.