To think that some things in life are mapped out for you?

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I fell madly in love as a teenager - first love and all that - would have married him in a heartbeat. I was dumped and heartbroken. I have done some facebook stalking (don't we all) and he is still married to the woman he met shortly after dumping me. However, it doesn't look as if they have children. Now I know this may have been a conscious decision but maybe if I hadn't stayed with him I wouldn't have children either. Any thoughts?

My first "boyfriend" married the next girl he dated and had three kids with her before they were about 25. To be honest I was a bit freaked out when I heard that. I was still saying I was too young at 40 35.

A bit like fate? Yes absolutely. We had fertility treatmentfor years and nothing worked. We adopted our beautiful son. . 14monrhs later and completely by suprise I was pregnant with dd. But I I hadn't of had all the fertility issues I would never have had my ds.

I married my teenage first love young and we didn't last long after that. He's in his mid-50's now but never had children (think he's on his second marriage since me), but I know he definitely did want them at some future point when we were together, so I do wonder if it was choice or circumstance which led to him not having any.

I don't believe in fate. We make our own paths in life.

No such thing as fate. It's all random.

I don’t understand your point. Someone you had a brief teenage relationship with turns out not to have children with his next partner, and you think it’s fated that he dumped you so that you could have children?

Nothing in life is "mapped out", nothing happens 'for a reason'.

If it did, what would be the reasons for all the shit that's happened in my life? And I'd probably be seriously hacked off that my life had been "mapped" (by who?) to be the life I lead.