Friends from baby group

[mintich]

I already know I'm being pathetic! So I know some women from a baby group and there is about 5 of us. I have known 1 woman longer than the rest but all in all about 6 months.
We normally always extend invitations out to each other, but I've found out (from facebook) that two of them are planning an outing tomorrow and the rest of us weren't invited.
They aren't my main friends even "mummy" wise but I still feel left out!
We were all chatting on what's app and it still never got mentioned.
Why do I feel like I'm at school all over again!!

'that two of them are planning an outing tomorrow and the rest of us weren't invited.'

Sorry but I don't see the issue

Sometimes I just do something with a friend, doesn't mean we have to extend it to one and all.

Somehow if it's only two then to me that seems more reasonable. If it were 3 or 4 of them then that's just excluding people. Sounds like they've just paired off

Perfectly normal to go somewhere just two people. Organising groups is a ballache

This is why I avoid baby groups like the plague tbh.

I suppose it's because I knew one of them first and introduced the others, I feel like they should include me ( which of course they don't have to!)

I think two out of five can do stuff. If four out of five got together that would be mean.

In the nicest possible way, you need to get a grip.

I was closer to one mum out of the 5 in our group. It never occurred to me that I needed to do everything as a group. I enjoyed spending 1:1 time with my friend. It didn't mean I didn't like the others, just that sometimes it's nice, and easier, to not run as a pack all the time.

Oh I'm aware I need to get a grip!! I'm actually annoyed with myself that I feel hurt!

It would be mean if it were just you who was left out... but these two have obviously formed a particular friendship for some reason OR maybe have just randomly bumped into each other and decided to do something tomorrow.

You are really going to have a hard time of it if you are already being sensitive about stuff like this! It doesnt mean they dont like you or you wont be invited to other stuff.

I would probably feel a bit the same OP. In my group of Mum friends we all WhatsApp and arrange play dates and if some folk can't make it then it still goes ahead but at least everyone has been invited.

I understand how you feel but you are bu.
Doesn’t stop you feeling hurt though

I think the baby group time can be tricky like this... it’s easy to start feeling vulnerable and irrational about friendships when you’ve been thrown into this new world of baby stuff, support and companionship is really important, your work friend network is no longer there, and you might also have an expectation that you’ll make lifelong ‘Mum friends’ because lots of other people have.

It’s okay and understandable to feel left out, as long as you realise they’re doing nothing wrong.

Maybe it’s time to try some other groups, or even classes/activities where you might socialise without baby, to chat to different people and broaden your base of contact/socialising.

I can see why you might feel left out, however it’s good to have a few separate groups/mummy friends.

I have a bunch of friends who we all met when pregnant, they’re a lovely lot but we only meet maybe once a month and I need to get out much more than that! So I have them, a couple of mums from Mush with babies, my oldest friend who has an older baby and a mum I met in hospital, all who I meet on separate occasions. I also go to a class each week and baby cinema. It still doesn’t feel like enough and I quite often look on Hoop to see what activities are happening that day if I have no plans.

I wouldn’t set too much store by mum friendships as they can be fickle.

The stupid thing is, I have lots of other mummy friends so not sure why I'm bothered!!

Yabu for overuse of 'mummy friends'

Why don't you just make a date with one other mummy friends then? I can understand feeling left out, but I'd do my own thing if I was in your position.

OP sometimes people just click. Just because you've known someone a longer time or have introduced people to each other doesn't mean their own friendships can't become stronger as a result. Even if they better friends with each other than with you. Fluid friendships are natural and you needn't worry that you are going to end up wendied.

@Marthas 😂
So after all that they did actually invite me....and the rest. Turns out the rest of us didn't get invited as we have partners and they don't so thought we'd be busy.
So now I definitely feel pathetic for even giving this thought!