Funeral flowers

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I'm going to a funeral for a non family member.. what type of flowers do I take? Are bunches of flowers allowed or are specific displays required?

I have no idea of the etiquette and don't want to balls it up

Thank you

I've never seen anyone bring flowers to a funeral. They've usually been ordered in advance and are in the hearse with the coffin?

Perhaps that's just a weird catholic thing though and someone will come along in a minute and tell you to grab a bouquet from Marks.

You can take any flowers you like they can usually be left at the church/crem door go to a florist get a bunch made up with a card.

I've taken flowers to a funeral. The funeral directors usually take them off you and add them to the rest of them. I just asked for a funeral bouquet at the florists.

I've never taken flowers to a funeral before, never occurred to me. However, there's nearly always been a collection box for a charity that means something to the family of the deceased, so if you decide not to take flowers, just have some cash ready for the collection.

I made my own up - a bunch of lillies, a bunch of roses and some gypsophila and hand ties with some jute twine. My dsis works at a crem and says they end up disposing if thousands of pounds worth every week, and it does sadden her but has to be done.

Most obituaries say family flowers only and ask for a donation to charity in lieu

Funerals often specify 'family flowers only' but otherwise feel free to take some with you or arrange with the funeral director.

Go for the charity donation option.

A friend told me of a funeral she went to a few years ago. The "floral" display on the coffin was made up of vegetables - think of the lovely, vibrant colours you can get - and everyone got to take a bag of veg home after the service.

Is there someone you can ask if they want flowers or not? A lot of families don’t or would prefer a donation to a charity close to the heart of the deceased.

I certainly don’t think it’s common to bring flowers to funerals these days.

OP, if you can, check the family wishes re flowers, as some prefer a donation to charity in the deceased’s name, and for flowers to be from immediate or close family only.

My dsis works at a crem and says they end up disposing if thousands of pounds worth every week, and it does sadden her but has to be done.

So, the family doesn't take the flowers? Here, the funeral home delivers all the floral arrangements to the family after the service. Personally, I usually send a planter, that way the family has something they can keep.

Where we are unless directed otherwise all flowers are left for public viewing

says they end up disposing if thousands of pounds worth every week, and it does sadden her but has to be done.

^^ Couldnt they donate them to local old folks home? I was told if i didnt want flowers after the local old folks home will take them and the elderly people then make up their own bunches with them, sounded like a lovely idea! what a waste! there is no need for it!

I know people are just trying to be kind and show their respects but when my Mum died the last think I even wanted to see was a bunch of flowers! I’d much have preferred just a nice card or a charity donation in her memory.

The donate them to the old folks home made me laugh.

My gran was in a home and this happened and the residents kicked up a stink because they felt that in their twilight years the last thing they wanted to see were wreaths and obvious funeral bouquets. My lovely gran thought it was hysterical

These days people usually ask for a donation to charity instead of flowers, but some still want to see lots and lots of wreaths and bouquets. Was your invitation to the funeral over the phone, via email or via Facebook or something? People often say what they would prefer (as with the 'wear something green because it was Uncle Arthur's favourite colour' etc.) Or you could ask someone - perhaps not a member of the most immediate family.
Though you wouldn't go far wrong with a nice card as a compromise.

Was there a funeral announcement in the paper? That usually gives advice on flowers. Often a condolences card is more appropriate.