To think this was an over reaction about a window?

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My mum lives about 15 minutes away and I see her regularly. She phoned today and asked if she could come round and I said yes after swimming. She came just as I was putting DS down for his nap so we came downstairs, said hello etc then I took him back upstairs to put him to sleep. I came back down after 5-10 minutes max and my mum said "do you not have any windows open in this house". I explained I had been out and the house was nice and cool anyway. I will open the windows later to let the cooler evening air in but for now they were shut, bar the bathroom window. For relevance downstairs we only have the kitchen window which opens directly onto the road and the patio doors in the lounge. My mum then said she was hot so I asked why she hadn't just said that and opened the patio doors, although there is no breeze. She then said I should have DS window open as it would help him sleep better but I explained that his room looks over the road and the trainline and the noise would wake him. She then said "I just don't understand you' and stormed out. She had only been here for 15 minutes. Did I commit some huge mistake by not having all the windows open?

Weird reaction.

All my windows except two on the shaded side of the house are closed and have been all day. Blinds down on the sunny side.

It was lovely coming home to a nice cool house

I'm sure it's down to hot flushes and the menopause, I'm having them. The trouble is that when you're having them you tend to forget that it's just you that's feeling too hot. They're very unpleasant to cope with, but it's still no excuse for lashing out at you.

I would agree that you should call her later to see if she's okay. But you shouldn't apologise as you really didn't do anything to merit her throwing a toddler type tantrum. It's your decision whether your windows are open or closed after all.

She said she has realised that I do things differently from her but she still sounds moody. Oh well

Your mother is having a hissy fit like a 3 year old. Leave her to it and don't make her issues your problem

But GnotherGnu, the air is hot during the day so you're letting the heat in (unless there's a stiff breeze blowing). It's better to shut out the heat and the sunlight with thick curtains or blinds, then open everything up in the evening for the cool breeze.

I shut out the sunlight with slatted blinds, but open the windows to get a through draft.

I've had so many memories triggered by this thread!

It reminds me very much of mother and mother-in-law's reaction to my parenting as a new mum and how weaning should be, sleeping in a moses basket and then cot, what temperature of room, how many covers, not to use cot surround, size of gap between mattress and cot, how the baby should sleep in the cot, routine, feeding etc, etc.

They've told me how it should be done and I'm not obeying them. The reaction is exactly the same.

I was born in the 60's, my dm used to stick me in the pram and wheel me into the garden to nap.

And I don't open windows if the sun is shining on them, it lets all the heat in.