So, my friend lives overseas and her Mum who I only ever met a couple of times has taken an interest me because I have a baby. It started with her knitting her a cardigan whilst I was pregnant. I sent a TY card and then she got in touch wanting to meet up, I was reluctant but met her because I didn't really want to her offend her by saying no. Then she wanted to visit, again I said ok, mainly because I am still really good friends with her daughter. That time she was overly inquistive on feeding, sleeping, the decor of my house... I felt she was subtely telling me what to do. Anyway, I had my baby and as soon as I did she wanted to visit, only because she was going on holiday and wanted to see the baby before she left. By this point I was really over it. I wasn't long out the hospital and didn't care much for visitors and I really feel like I am indulging her because her children are not giving her any more grandchildren, she barely knows me but yet is quite bossy, though subtle. She has also offered to babysit but I know she has a drink problem. Not happening! Anyway, I let her visit, again, and when she was holding my baby she was staring at her, as though studying her, her manner is quite intimidating then she made some off joke about leaving the baby on the sofa to fend for herself. I took my baby back at that point. It just all feels very odd and I don't like her coming round. Today in the mail there's a postcard from her to my baby!
I don't want to upset the woman but I don't really want her hanging round. How do I do this?? My baby has grandparents and aunts and uncles and a very capable Mum and Dad. It's a shame this woman will not have any more grandchildren but I don't see why I shoud have to cater for her need especially since she's not exactly a sweet old lady. Ugh! So, any ideas? AIBU? I dunno!