First birthday gifts

[Ginger1982]

I'm friends with a lovely bunch of mums that I met when I had DS. We keep in touch via WhatsApp, ask for advice, have play dates when we can and I see some of them at classes I do. We all did a secret Santa for the babies at Christmas so each child got a present from someone. Now we're hitting the birthdays. Only one of the mums is having a party so obviously I will take a present to the party. One of the other mums gave me a present for DS which was lovely and I will reciprocate for her DD next month. The Mum who is having the party didn't and I haven't seen the others (which is fine, I wasn't expecting presents for him).

I'm just wondering WIBU to just give the two presents I've mentioned above or should I buy for all of them? Given my DS has had his birthday if I give presents to those who haven't given presents to him would they feel embarrassed and obliged to then get him something?

Anyone?

I only bought presents for the ones who had birthday parties (that we attended). I think it's fine what you've done, otherwise it all gets a bit out of hand! And expensive.

Only buy presents for those parties you attend and anyone who bought him stuff. If you end up buying for other than these then people start to expect gifts next time around and then it gets costly. If you can try and work out how much they spent and either match it or reduce the cost

Thanks!

I only gave presents if there was a party or if they were a really close friend, in which case they’d have given my dd a present too. I usually get a board book from the works, there’s no need to spend a fortune when they’re little.