Husband is retired. He runs a small hobby business from home - which will very say a couple of times a month, require him to do a few hours work which brings in a small amount of money. He is fit and well. I am 10 years younger than him. I work part-time away from home 2 or 3 days a week and am dong paid work at home for at least another day a week.
Since he stopped working full-time we have had endless discussions about chores. He shops and cooks on the days when I am out at work and will sometimes do this on other days. He does half the washing up. At my suggestion he also takes care of the laundry. But he does no other cleaning and tidying so the house will become thick with dust and the floors filthy. He simply does not notice. At one point he did vacuuming but our old hoover was not very efficient and he disliked the machine and did it badly. This was during a period where my work from home, which is freelance, had dried up so I said that while I was at home more I'd do the hoovering.
But for the last 3 months I've been working harder than ever. In January the old vacuum cleaner died and we bought a new one which was very efficient. I showed him the basic controls after assembling it and told him where I'd left the manual so that he could take a look. About four of five times I've mentioned that he doesn't seem to have tried out the vacuum cleaner yet.
Over Easter I was working really hard - the house is a mess and this morning I snapped at him about not having done any tidying or cleaning when I'd been at work yesterday. He just went 'But I thought you did the vacuuming. You said that you'd do it.'
I just feel rage and despair. Any thoughts?