I know I'm not unreasonable but it still bug me and feel "guilty" for not helping out and being "mean"
I have a school mum friend, who I distance myself from some time ago and now I remember why...
She's a lovely lady, who been through a lot and seems to working hard to make better life for herself and her child.
We are not the closest friends but get along ok and meeting up sometimes with kids.
The thing is every time, without the fail, after our catch up she ask me for a favours it's usually to take her child to school or look after her child....
I generally don't mind helping people out when they stuck and don't expect favours in return (although it's nice to have backup for emergencies) but with this particular lady I'm quite uneasy as it's very one sided, and she has a really annoying habit pointing "life it's so hard for single mothers", "I have no family to relay on so my friends are my family, that's why I'm asking you" etc., it's really annoying me....
We had nice long overdue catch up with kids at the weekend. And it seems like we falling with old pattern, she asked me already twice to do school run for her... (I didn't because I'm not driving at the moment, so she had to find someone else)
Just for context last year I got really annoyed and cool off the contact because it got so ridiculous that I was doing school run for her 3-4 times a week (because it was raining, because she had a migraine, was unwell, was running late, etc).
I look after her child numerous times while she was working at the weekends.
I was also asked numerous times to look after him overnight while she planned to go out with her boyfriend....
I had to explain that I was unable to do this because I don't have anyone to look after my own kids at that time, and no I don't do sleepovers during school week.
So would I be completely unreasonable to keep saying no until she finds someone else do to stuff for her?