To want to spend money

[fuzzyduck1]

Me and my partener are on holiday at the moment “a month in Thailand Vietnam and Borneo” I have paid for all the flights and most of the hotels my partener has paid for three of the hotels and some diving we have done.
She is being pig headed saying she should supply all the spending money as I have paid so much but I have bought a lot of cash with me for spending money but she moans every time I change some.

AIBU to want to spend my money and not rely on hers.

Little bit of back story I have lived with her for 6 years now and she’s never asked mo for a penny rent I just do odd jobs around the house. A year ago my job was relocated and she was made redundant. We were fortunate that she got a job at the place my job was relocated to and went and bought a house there for us to live in so I have been paying her £500 a month since then to repay the loan she took out to buy the house but she thinks this is to much?

I don’t want her to feel I’m taking liberties. That’s why the holidays I don’t mind paying for in full but she just won’t let me

If that's what she want, and she's adult enough to know what she can afford, what's the problem?

The finances do sound a little messy in general. Did she earn a lot more than you before the redundancy? Does %500 cover half the mortgage? Is it in both your names?

Six years in and you still haven't found your natural stride regarding finances.

Make a joint 'pool' for drinks/food/snacks but personal or big ticket items micro gliding or dolphin juggling, jade Buddhas you pay.

No motrgage as such house bought with redundancy savings from both of us and a loan. I know it’s an odd way to go about it but it worked for us. Saved on arrangement fees.
I’ve always earn more than her by about £10k but she’s good at saving as I’m not that’s why I’d rather pay for holidays etc so she can save money for other stuff. If I have money and see a new toy I want at the right price I go and buy it. That’s how we have ended up with a garage full of motorbikes and 3 cars and a camper van. And a boat or two.

After 6 years you still have separate finances. What plans do you have for the future ? Do you have children ? Do you have unresolved issues from the past (another poster was recently one day from buying a house with her partner, but the partner already had a house with a previous partner that had not been legally resolved) I expect that some people would like to be in your fortunate position