The Other woman-Exs New Girlfriend

[Lavender928]

It's been two years since ex had to move out. We have 5 year old and believe it or not 7 month old baby (pressure from family to try harder as we have a child - didn't work so I have two)
Finally my ex has moved on( or that's what he's been saying) and found someone. Second woman I know about but first my daughter has met last weekend.
Firstly he lied about what they are going to do and didn't tell me the other woman is going to be there even though I didn't even ask him where they're going, only to find out from my daughter that the other woman kissed her on mouth!!!!!! And my DD didn't like it. So I messaged my EX who told me I'm being jealous and lying about it being me not DD. And even if it was should another women kiss 5 year old on mouth when she only just met her?
AIBU believing that even if it was me he and she should respect me? kiss on cheek ok, but kissing someone elses child on mouth? None of my friends have ever done it.

That's odd. Id be pissed off at that one.

I think YANBU. A kiss to a child anywhere the first time you meet them is weird! I feel for you, my daughters dad never tells me if his partner is going to be there until afterwards and even though I get on with both of them, I still feel as the sole parent with Parental Responsibility he should at least let me know who is going to be around her.

I'm confused. Is she the 'other woman' or his girlfriend, as in they got together after you broke up?

I wouldn't be fussed that he brought her along as that's his choice, but I would expect him to listen to his daughter when she tells him she doesn't like being kissed on the mouth.

It seems a bit odd. Are you sure it happened like that? Your DD is quite small; could she have been a bit unsettled by seeing your DH kiss his new GF on the mouth and sort of garbled it to you, not wanting to get him in 'trouble' with you or something? Just a thought!

YANBU about the kissing though I dont think its that weird, its quite common around us still can be wrong though and she should be asked to stop.
However unless I have read your OP wrong this girlfriend isnt actually the other women? So I think you are being unreasonable to call her that.

Pandarific- I don’t think so. I know she doesn’t like hugging and certainly not kissing. Even my friends said they don’t hug her unless she approaches then because they know she doesn’t like it and even though she’s five I can’t see her lying. She did say this Gf kissed her dad on mouth and giggled about it but she very much enjoyed her company.

She’s not the other women you’re right. I didn’t know what to call her. To me she’s the other woman ( in my daughters life) but not in a sense it is normally used so I can see it can be confusing.
I’ve never though I’d be in this situation and even though I don’t care what my ex does I do care when it comes to my daughter and I don’t need nor want this other woman ( gf) confusing my daughter by being this affectionate on their first visit.
I’m finding it really hard :(