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AIBU to wonder about the amount of detail people post in posts?

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Ickyockycocky · 17/04/2018 19:53

Often when I read a new post i wonder if the OP and the issue will be recognised. Does anyone else wonder about this?

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Coveredinbeeeeeeeeeeeees · 17/04/2018 19:57

Yep but I look forward to the day someone recognises themselves and there's a full blown jezza Kyle argument Grin

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Ickyockycocky · 17/04/2018 19:58

Bring it on Grin

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reachforthewine · 17/04/2018 19:59

People have been recognised. There was a thread about it not too long ago.

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Ickyockycocky · 17/04/2018 20:03

Don't people realise anyone can read this?

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AnxiousPeg · 17/04/2018 20:05

Occasionally, I suppose. But the world's a big place.

What baffles me is when someone pointedly says 'a well known supermarket' or 'a well known coffee shop' even when it's not particularly crucial to the story. Either name it (Tesco, Costa) or don't allude to it - just say 'in a supermatket' - why the coyness??

MissDuke · 17/04/2018 20:06

What gets me is when they give loads of complex info but then refuse to give one small random detail for fear of outing, always makes me laugh!

Fluffyears · 17/04/2018 20:08

I found out who a poster was because she posted the exact same thing on Facebook and mumsnet word for word. Looked at her history and it all definitely matched her life,

NetVolume · 17/04/2018 20:09

Hobbies are outing.

RosyPrimroseface · 17/04/2018 20:10

Yes, "My red-haired 17 year old twins are the under 18 horse-jumping champions of Kent, and they are having a double wedding to two brothers from Mexico, on the first Saturday in August. I'm buying the flowers from a well known online flowe retailer - won't say which as I don't want to be outed!"

WorraLiberty · 17/04/2018 20:11

AnxiousPeg, or when an OP says 'Dh was out doing his hobby' but they can't possibly say what it is, as it may be far too outing.

Then it turns out to be golf, football or fishing Grin

Mydoghatesthebath · 17/04/2018 20:11

Rosy Grin

Hassled · 17/04/2018 20:12

Yes, plenty of people have been recognised and there have been some pretty unhappy fall-outs.
Threads in Chat disappear after a period (60 days? 90? can't remember) and then there's 30 Days Only. If you want to start a potentially identifying thread that you don't want to follow you round Mumsnet forever, that's the place to start it.

Mydoghatesthebath · 17/04/2018 20:13

I know what are these special hobbies the boring bastards pursue. I think most are made up really.

NetVolume · 17/04/2018 20:13

Running or cycling I reckon.

CaffeineAndCrochet · 17/04/2018 20:14

Cycling. It's always bloody cycling.

user1471517900 · 17/04/2018 20:14

As long as you avoid telling the thread your DH plays golf you should be fine....

tillytoodles1 · 17/04/2018 20:15

I used to be on a forum where a girl was complaining she couldn't find bridesmaid shoes for her niece as she had a very high instep. She didn't know her sister was a member and when she was asked "is that my daughter you're talking about" she began to apologise rather than just saying no.

They had a huge online row, which ended up with the sister refusing to come to the wedding, her daughter was no longer a BM, her son wasn't a pageboy and they weren't speaking.

FittonTower · 17/04/2018 20:16

Lots of people change small details when posting complicated and individual stories i think but there aren't huge risks usually to someone recognising you. And while anybody can see it most people won't - Mumsnet is popular but each thread isnt read by that many people i don't suppose. Relatively few when you think about it.
Although, while we're discussing what people will and won't post I always enjoy reading about mysterious "hobbies". Like they are incredibly private and rare.

Celticlassie · 17/04/2018 20:21

I'm the same with 'hobbies'. Especially when most people I know don't refer to 'hobbies'. They occasionally go on a bike ride, or to the gym, or (mostly) to the pub, but nobody has these 'hobbies' that involve every second Saturday, every Sunday and Tuesday evenings. Hmm

WorraLiberty · 17/04/2018 20:21

Is instep shaming a thing now? Shock

MagneticMan · 17/04/2018 20:37

Why one earth would you have a major family row because someone mentioned your child had a high instep Confused

If she's said she was having problems getting her DN dress because she had a fat arse and bandy legs then I could understand the issue.

If someone thinks they've posted too much info they just go running to MNHQ and get the thread pulled . It would be better to not expose personal info in the first place.

Mydoghatesthebath · 17/04/2018 20:39

I suspect the instep quarrel was bollocks

BlueThesaurusRex · 17/04/2018 20:40

Re-enacting is a hobby that could be quite outing- but only if you posted what ‘era’ you did!

LeighaJ · 17/04/2018 20:41

NetVolume

"Hobbies are outing."

As well as your husband's job. Grin

Mydoghatesthebath · 17/04/2018 20:42

On cycling I know it might just b me but I find cycling totally produces the type of male body I find most unappealing.

Thin, bony legs and arse and usually boring on about the Tour de France. No man looks good in Lycra Wink

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