Has anyone ever "started again"?

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Not with a partner but whilst single, on your own with kid/s.

Has anyone moved far away from their family/support network & effectively started afresh??

Not me but my sister. She moved about 100 miles away from us all and seems happy. We talk on the phone and she seems happy enough and visit each other when we can.

I just think maybe it's time to cut the ties and leave. Start again with my DS. He won't know any different as he's only a year old.

There is a part of me that is holding back because of my mental health

Why do you feel the need to cut ties?

Would you research were you are going, in regards to Mental Health support?

I should have moved away. I think staying has had a massive effect on me. I'd love to leave my City, if it wasn't for my Adult children and GC.

I did but my son is older. I wanted away from all the drama, never looked back! coulda moved a bit further............

It can be a great idea, I think, but you'd have to be careful where you moved to, so that it was a place that offered the sort of things you wanted.

What do you want to move from?

Don't get yourself into a position of ex wanting contact and you having to fund the travel as it was you that moved.

I did and found it difficult. DC spent long hours in childcare and I found it difficult to meet people as I was working full time. It was exhausting and isolating. That's not to say it wouldn't work for you. Just think about what it would be like day to day.

I just don't want the drama any longer. I just want a life with me and my son and start again.

His father isn't involved so no worries about access arrangements.

I'm
Just suffering with my mental health & family aren't helping

Yes.
The kids and I moved 200 miles 15 years ago. In lots of ways a brilliant decision. But you end up spending a lot of holidays on the motorway, miss family and friends and have to consciously build a network. And in my first month in a new job I ended up driving a sick kid 200 miles to grandma's house.

Unfortunately, after all the excitement of moving house, changing everything, exploring a new area and building a new life you discover that you have accidentally taken yourself with you.

Moving area is harder work than you expect, unless there’s a really good reason to move to that place, I suppose.

Could you cut the ties without moving?

Do you have a job?
How are your family contributing to your problems?

Unless you are pretty determined and relatively outgoing you might end up very isolated.

Good time to do it in some ways.

I moved 150 mikes away from parents and other family when DD1 was 3. Best thing for us both. Remarried and had two more children and made lots of friends via the kids and school. I envied friends who had local family support but I wouldn’t have had that support even if I’d stayed near family.