AIBU to go out once a week?

[Coffeeandvodkakeepmesane]

So, I have two DC, six and eight. My DH is not interested in going out, but now the kids are older, I'm trying to reclaim my life back a bit.

I've been going out and seeing friends roughly once a week (not every week) either on a Friday or a Saturday. My family are now judging me, saying that as a mother I shouldn't be going out - but I only go out after the kids are in bed and am back before they wake up, so not sure what harm I'm doing them?

I know for a fact that if it was DH going out, they wouldn't bat an eyelid. Most of my friend's DHs go out more than once a week, and no one judges them.

So is this a mum / dad gender disparity thing? Am I not allowed to have a social life because I am (gasp!) a mother?

Me and dh both go out regularly either together or separately as do most couples I know and to my knowledge nobody has ever batted an eye lid.

Yadnbu. Yes its sexist clap trap. If your kids are asleep and your dh prefers to stay in wheres the harm?

Go out if you want to. "as a mother I shouldn't be going out"

No and good on you for doing it! Keep going out.

If anything having a bit of 'you' time will probably make you a better (or at least a happier) Mother!

Totally sexist clap trap.

Of course YANBU, your DH is perfectly capable of looking after his own kids for an evening, I'm sure. Good for you keeping your social life going. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy!

I'd suggest darning socks whilst the children are sleeping rather than galavanting all over town. Or don't tell your family what you're up to!

I must be an absolutely terrible mother then. I go out at least once a week as does my DH .....and shock horror we go out together often too and leave our child at grandparents.

Keep going out and enjoy yourself

My husband works away / late a lot and so after a week of working then childcare by myself I'm desperate to go out on a Friday / Saturday with my friends too!

I always put the kids to bed and rarely stay out past 1030pm... frankly I think having something to look forward to keeps me sane! I'd happily go out with my DH but he's usually too tired as many of his late nights seem to involve corporate entertaining and a load of booze.

You have as much right to a life as anyone else. Ignore your family and keep going out!

I think it's good for your mental health to have me time, acting like an adult not a mum.

I know if there has been a whilst since I socialised I start feeling very withdrawn and lonely.

Tell your family to keep their beaks out!

Who in your family is doing the judging.I think getting out and being you instead or a mother,wife,daughter is necessary for sanity.

Do what you want/what works for you and DH.

I go out most Wednesdays, DH goes out Thursdays. And one or both of us generally has something on at the weekend too. We enable each other to have hobbies and social lives, we are more than just parents!!!