AIBU about my family not wishing my young DC happy birthday?

[WhiteCat1704]

AIBU about my family not wishing my young DS happy birthday?

I live abroad from my family of origin - DM, DF, DSis and DB. Have a good relationships with all of them despite distance and make an effort to visit 3/4 times per year. At the momemt my DS is an only grandchild.

It was my DS birthday few days ago. He is only young (pre school age). My DHs family send cards, gifts and few people came over to see him. We didn't remind anybody. There has been nothing from my family. No even a text or a quick call.

AIBU to feel upset about it? I know he is my child and my responsibility and not as important to others and they are busy but the contrast between mine and DHs family has struck me this year.

are your dh family abroad, too?
maybe your family forgot the date of it, don't be upset about it.

I could have written your post.

It is disappointing and hurtful, for both me and my children. Occasionally after the event, there may be a very late remark made but don't count on it. For instance, my children received a Christmas card in April and only because we visited them. It would never have been posted - obviously.

I've been too proud to say anything as I think it means nothing when someone has to be prompted and told to say something as simple as happy birthday.

Lower your expectations and as your son gets older, say your family don't do cards (even if they do them for other people). Take the hurt from him as much as you can. That is what I do.

Its difficult to deal with.

My dd's 1st birthday she got nothing from my in laws.....shes now 6 and I haven't forgotten!!! I put a post on fb thanking everyone for her birthday presents and messages which I think they saw as they now send my dc's presents in "bulk" ...for example we will get a parcel in july with all the childrens birthday presents and christmas presents in. Now if they were all close to xmas then fair enough....but the birthdays range from august to feb.....so we have to keep and hide one birthday present from july until feb!!!! So to be honest I don't think they know the exact dates of their birthdays!! and tbh they get a lot of "tat" that would cost around £5 max each whereas neices and nephews get a lot more (DN got a garden play house last year, my dd got a plastic crown)

YANBU to be upset....