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Should i seek help?

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Cantstopsneezing · 15/04/2018 23:47

More WWUD really, posting for traffic here.
Half a lifetime ago (literally) I had an invasive surgery. When I woke up, I couldn’t move or even open my eyes. It scared the bejesus out of me as I panicked that I’d stop breathing and wouldn’t be able to call for help until I realized I had the machine breathing for me. Since then I had psychological issues with breathing (can’t stand people touching my neck, even lovingly, have paranioa about suffocating etc). Always had it under control though, never spoke to a professional about it, very few people know about it.
And then recently I went through emergency C-section while in labour with my DC. I had anaesthetics which effectively paralysed me not just below my waist but all below my neck. I’ve gone through many complex surgeries in my life and normally I’m the one cracking jokes with the surgeons till I pass out and supporting my loved ones before I am taken to the theatre. Not this time. I was shocked to discover how scared I was of not being able to move. I, the forever brave soldier, was crying and asking to let me go. I was in such a raving panic that the only person who could calm me down was anaesthesiologist. I apologised to him and the surgeons later on.
Now, months later, I cant stop thinking about my irrational fear and wondering - I was so petrified of being paralysed and I know where it is stemming from, do I need to seek help? It came as a horrible shocking surprise but it’s not like it’s affecting my everyday life, so am I really making it worse by sweeping it under the carpet?
I am not talking nesseseraly going on NHS but should I be seeking any help, including private? Has anyoneone tackled a fear like that? I would relally appreciate some advice from MNters who’s been in a similar position! And sorry for such a long post!! Tia!!

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Aquamarine1029 · 16/04/2018 00:03

It sounds to me that you are suffering from post traumatic stress. If you feel you need the help from a qualified therapist to help you, then please find one. The fact that you recognise you need help is a huge positive step for your recovery and well being. Even though your fear doesn't impact your life on an everyday basis, it clearly upsets you to a very large degree. If it didn't, you wouldn't have posted. I wish you the very best!

Cantstopsneezing · 16/04/2018 00:47

Thank you for your kind words! I guess I’m more concerned about wasting people’s time when this fear is affecting me (thank goodness!) in extreme circumstances only.

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MissusGeneHunt · 16/04/2018 01:05

You poor love, it sounds awful. I fully empathise with you and go through similar things. Aqua probably has it right, PTSD, but clearly I'm not a clinician. CBT can really help me, it might be something you look into, but perhaps a visit to your GP, and they can refer you. You are NOT wasting peoples time at all. Be well Flowers

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