My DM died a week ago, work sent me flowers which were lovely and a lovely thought and I put them in a vase in the livingroom. DH kept constantly sneezing so we eventually figured it could be the flowers. He moved them through to the utility room and then stopped sneezing so that confirmed it. Later on, I was hanging washing in the utility so I moved them into the kitchen (this is open plan to the dining room and study area). I went through to the study area to tell DH something in the evening and before I could say anything he said he'd moved the flowers back to the utility room as they were bothering him even the big open plan area. I said they may as well go in the bin as no-one could see them and constantly moving them was likely to end up with a broken vase. He bristled about it and then marched and put them back in the livingroom. He then avoided using the living room at all today so before dinner while he was out, I put them in the bin.
We've now had a fight as apparently I've binned them just to make him feel worse. No, I've binned them as it's pointless having them where they are in the way all the time and no-one, including me, can see them. I asked him what he wanted me to do with them, he eventually said that I shouldn't have binned them, just put them somewhere that he wasn't...which is where exactly? Ended up fighting about other stuff too which isn't relevant to the AIBU. As a consequence now I am feeling shitty, I have to go back to work tomorrow which I am feeling bad enough about and I still have a week until the funeral.
I know it sounds really petty and it is but was IBU?