To text first?

[Humbleton]

Just went on an online first date, it was good but not amazing. I felt like there was a connection - he bought the first drink, I bought the second then about two hours in he was like “I’ve got to make a move” 🤔 We said goodbye but it all felt a bit weird and abrupt. He’s not super confident, I don’t know if it’s a shyness thing? Should I text or wait for him too?

Agreed! Also he drank straight whisky - weird right

Wait and see if he texts in a few days but tbh it doesn’t sound like you’re that keen anyway so continue chatting to other people and hopefully you’ll find someone who’s a better fit for you

Also straight whisky on a date is a bit weird - maybe he was trying to seem a big man!

Thanks! Yeah I thought so - single malt whiskey on the rocks

—and he lied about his height—

If he was interested he would text you. Also do not understand why you bothered seen as you are now telling us his faults.

Don't chase him especially if you're undecided. He cut your date short and his text whilst polite isn't seeking another date.

You are talking yourself out of something you didn't appear to be that in to.

I'm all for giving someone a chance but no sense in flogging a dead horse that was small than you were lead to believe.

The dating threads crack me up.

"I had a lovely first date with a man 6 years ago but I haven't heard from him since. What do I do?"

"Six years is nothing, he's probably shy. I'd send a balloon bouquet to his work address."

"Balloon are misleading - you'd send balloons to a kid's party!  Send him a photoshopped picture of you and him in wedding gear."

"Weddings are patriarchal. Text him something low-key like, I haven't stopped seeing your face in my dreams for the past six years. Dinner on Mon/Tues/Weds/Thurs/Fri/Sat/Sun?"

"I'd never cook dinner for a man. My mum cooked dinner for my dad on their second date and 54 years later he left her for his carer."

"I'd never text a man. I make men wait 10 years for a date. Weeds out the players like nothing else."

OK, I've texted him, "Hello stranger! Fancy drinks soon?"

"Way too casual. Did you mean to be so rude? Go round to his house with no top on."

"Post him your mooncup! It's the 21st century!"

"I think everyone should do what they want."

"Your text was way too casual. You might as well have written, "Fuck off you bellend"

"I sent my DH a balloon bouquet on our first date and we're really happy. My friend refused to propose to her boyfriends and now she's living in a top-floor flat alone. With sepsis."

He replied! 'Sorry, who is this?'

"Told you your text was too casual."

Whats too funny, belly laughing here

OP - if a man cuts a date off abruptly and doesn't ask for a second date within 24 hours, he's just not that into you. Next!

Sorry Op, that reply doesn't sound like he wants a second date to me. I would take it that way and wouldn't reply to that if it were me. If i'm wrong, he will ask you.

But you don't sound keen anyway. Onwards and upwards - got to avoid kissing a lot of frogs in online dating!

2 hours and he was off? Not what I'd call a successful date to be honest.

I'd leave it now and move on especially as you don't sound that keen.

He’s not keen after that text. Move along OP - next!

Don't take it to heart though. Old is Brutal in some ways. I like the 30 30 30 rule... About 30 percent of people will like you, 30 per cent won't and 30 percent won't care either way. Always someone round the corner who will like you!

Old =online dating obvs

*The dating threads crack me up.

"I had a lovely first date with a man 6 years ago but I haven't heard from him since. What do I do?"

"Six years is nothing, he's probably shy. I'd send a balloon bouquet to his work address."

"Balloon are misleading - you'd send balloons to a kid's party!  Send him a photoshopped picture of you and him in wedding gear."

"Weddings are patriarchal. Text him something low-key like, I haven't stopped seeing your face in my dreams for the past six years. Dinner on Mon/Tues/Weds/Thurs/Fri/Sat/Sun?"

"I'd never cook dinner for a man. My mum cooked dinner for my dad on their second date and 54 years later he left her for his carer."

"I'd never text a man. I make men wait 10 years for a date. Weeds out the players like nothing else."

OK, I've texted him, "Hello stranger! Fancy drinks soon?"

"Way too casual. Did you mean to be so rude? Go round to his house with no top on."

"Post him your mooncup! It's the 21st century!"

"I think everyone should do what they want."

"Your text was way too casual. You might as well have written, "Fuck off you bellend"

"I sent my DH a balloon bouquet on our first date and we're really happy. My friend refused to propose to her boyfriends and now she's living in a top-floor flat alone. With sepsis."

He replied! 'Sorry, who is this?'

"Told you your text was too casual."*

This is genius and also very true.

@WhatsGoingOnEh that is absolutely hilarious! Made me laugh on a Monday morning- thank you!

Love this @whatsgoingoneh 🤣

2 hours for a Sunday night meet up via online dating sounds about right. Enough time to be polite and to know if you want to meet up again.
Once you have been on loads of these first dates you see to may as well just make them short and sweet. Often I'd have had a good time on a longer date (drinks help!) but they'd just be "had fun, good luck in your search". So you may as well just have a short meet up and see what they say afterwards.

He doesn’t sound interested at all. I’d move on.

Such a funny post whats

I'm sorry OP, it sounds like a brush off from him. Am sure you can do better 👍

Whats’ assessment of Dating is hilarious.

I’d just leave it now OP. He might suggest another date, he might not.