AIBU to be able to see vendors in peace at a wedding fair?

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Ok am prepared to be told I am Being Unreasonable, but went to a wedding fair today with DP as trying to plan and we could barely move for pushchairs and children running round and big groups of women, when I say big I mean about 6 or 7 to one group.

At times we couldn't get near vendors for about 6 women spread across the stall front.
At least twice either me or DP nearly fell over a pushchair or a small child that was running freely about.

AIBU to think that you don't need all your bridesmaids there when choosing cakes/rings/caterers?
AIBU also to think that a wedding fair isn't really somewhere to take kids/have a family day out?

Just take a card and ring them later?

Some people like to have help/advice from others.

Some people don’t have childcare on tap.

As someone who just doesn't "get" the whole hype over weddings YANBU.

My idea of a wedding fair as absolute hell on Earth was confirmed some years ago (long before I was married) when I was summoned as a bridesmaid to attend. Bloody awful affair. The tasteless cakes, the meringue dresses, awful bands and just general crapness made me realise then and there that it wasn't for me.

You can organise a wedding without going to wedding fairs. They’re all going to be like tha so just organise it yourself. Google is just as good.

I do understand about problems with childcare, but it was things like talking to a vendor and turned around and a buggy had been put right behind myself and DP to the point had I not turned and seen it we would have both gone backwards over it, and had a child been in it the child would have got hurt with two adults falling on them, another point we were talking and a child ran straight between us and a vendor as something was being shown to us, nearly knocked the vendor over, (older woman).

OP,
I take it you don't have children

Never saw a buggy at the bridal fair I went to, but I hated the hard sell from the stalls. That, and the intake of breath through teeth when they discovered I was planning a wedding in 7 months. FFS.

The bridal dress places seemed to be shocked I was happy to wear something gasp off the rack. faints

I bought nothing, booked nothing and enjoyed only the free cupcake on arrival. It was hell on earth.

I do a lot of wedding fairs and yes you are being unreasonable. It's common to bring family members and kids. It's nice. It makes the atmosphere buzzy. Much like an actual wedding. All adds to the atmosphere.

Sounds like your main problem is parents being inconsiderate of others and not supervising their kids appropriately in which case YABU. In response to your original post though, in principle I don’t see why people shouldn’t take their kids to a wedding fair.

They shouldn’t be running around causing disruption. However surely when somewhere is busy common sense says to be careful when turning around?

That should have said YANBU

What's the point of wedding fairs anyway? We were engaged for 3 months and planned our wedding within 2 months, as we wanted to be married before the baby was born and before I was showing. Easiest thing I've done. Honestly I loved it. It obviously helped that I knew exactly what wanted, but even so, it's really not that hard.

Insancerre it's not as simple with cake makers, as you want to try the samples to know wether or not its worth calling them afterwards.
It was as difficult to even reach the cards at times, DP counted one group of at least 10 where the bride and one friend were talking to the vendor and the others were stood talking about where they going for lunch after and general non-weddingy stuff, but had spread themselves across one table. At least 3 other couples said excuse me to aforementioned group and they ignored everyone and refused to move to let anyone near the display/stand.

You weren’t in Kent by any chance were you, OP? I was at one today as an exhibitor and it was absolutely manic 😄.

I always try and have at least 2 people on my stand so I can try and make sure everyone who is waiting at least gets acknowledged and handed a flyer while they’re waiting (I also keep a bowl of sweets for the millions of bored kids)

My DM tried to take me to a wedding fair when now-DH and I were planning our wedding. I lasted about ten minutes before I left in digust. It's the marriage that's important, not the sleb-style wedding... Don't get me started

At the only wedding fair I went to, we couldn't move for orange girls desperate to Sharpie our eyebrows into submission. A few pushchairs would have been welcome relief.

You are having a child free wedding aren't you, OP?

Lots of brides these days are mums already, do you think they shouldn’t go to wedding fairs?

I get fed up of people who think their trolly needs to be pushed up against the shelves in the supermarket above real people who are doing their shopping, the point is, the world doesn’t revolve around you or me, so get a grip please and learn how to wait your turn at each of the stalls.

I do have some sympathy for you, OP. I don’t understand the appeal of dragging reluctant children around adult events like these, especially if it involves trying to wend one’s way through crowded or narrow aisles with a buggy. . We didn’t have any family near to use as babysitters, so would generally have one parent going to it and the other looking after the children. Not everything has to be done en masse.

Joyofsox yes a lot of mum's are going to be brides and are going to need ideas as well, but why should i not be able to even step back half a step without going backwards over your buggy, it was not even half an inch from our legs, and we DID wait our turn but wouldn't you get annoyed when you want information about something and you can't for a good 5 minutes because the people stood in between you and a vendor aren't even interested in what they're blocking, so neither the vendor or others can talk, as I said before DP saw 3 other couples say excuse me to this group.

As a pp suggested Google, I have been using it but I'm mainly interested in bakers and the way dresses look when you move which Google comes up short on this though as one sample of sponge cake i tried was like a sponge - dry and airy, and a dress I liked looked beautiful in pictures but when I saw it on a model it was so clingy and looked like the model was going to fall out the top, which is not a good look imo.