I'm 13 days post partum. My daughter turns one next week also so I have my hands full.
My dp is unemployed. He wants a job but needs a firm kick up the arse but I've given up and decided he needs to do it himself now. Things aren't great between us but I'm sure we will work through it. It's very stressful with two under one especially as he's struggling to bond with our newborn.
So we are really tight for money as I cannot claim SMP due to the second pregnancy. He is on income based jsa which is 600 a month. Our rent is around 80% of that. I can't get maternity allowance as he is claiming jsa. So we're on pretty much nothing.
So the job I've seen is in an area I call home. All my family are there, very respectful lovely area and it has excellent schools etc. A place I'd like to move back to and bring my children up. It pays a decent amount too so I'd be able to get a mortgage and I actually have the qualifications for it and I can get out of my current shit supermarket job where I'm treated really badly.
Would I be unreasonable to go for it with a newborn? I'm trying to breastfeed, so that'd stop. I dont seem to ever express much :( I'm worried I wont see my children much as when I'd get home the house would not be to my standards and I'd have to clean it all again. Dp would probably go out of his mind looking after ds as he's struggling to bond. I just want a good life for my children and I'm not sure what to do. What is better? A mom who's present or a mom who provides the extras and can afford to keep a roof over her children's head? It hit me the other day when I went toy shopping for dds birthday this week and I had to scrape whatever I could to get her things. It shouldn't be like this. I've had to sell all my possessions to pay for rent etc.. I can't do it anymore and I'm not sure what to do :( I don't want to work straight away. I can try to scrape by and still be here for my newborn son and dd but that's a dream to me at the moment.