Just had a row with H as I am frustrated that I haven't had many replies to DS birthday invitations. This happened last year and people turned up who hadn't RSVPd and I was embarrassed as didn't have enough party bags. He told me to stop being tight and just buy 20 of everything (fine but have invited 30 children) was just having a moan but he really shouted at me telling me just to add it to his list if I can't cope 
. I have to Take mental responsibility for EVERYTHING, DS education and addressing issues, how to fit in drop off and pick up, sort insurances, parties (which he loves to throw but does very little towards them) plan days out, make picnics, meal plan, buy EVERTHING that comes in house (cleaning supplies, food, kids clothes etc) even book his doctors and hair appointments. I'm also a teacher so a very headspace heavy job. He does the washing (but buying all washing supplies my job and he won't use the ones from our normal supermarket do have to make an extra trip). I'm currently on maternity and he gave me a massively hard time for not staying on top of washing with a 3 week old. He makes out I do nothing and it makes me feel a bit worthless. He even made a comment to a couple we have over that I don't cook his dinner (it's on the table every night when he gets home, even if he constantly leaves late and doesn't tell me so it ends up ruined and me stressed. He says I need a hobby - he has a few that he gives massive headspace to. I have no room left to focus on non-useful things, he constantly tells me 'I need a hobby' 
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