To ask for a parenting (a girl) tips

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DD is nearly 9 and has started doubting herself. She ays she doesn't like the way she looks, and whether she was adopted (because she looks more like dh than me). She says she really wants to look like me and constantly seeks reassurance about whether she is being 'good'.

I so want to help her feel at peace with herself but I', not sure I understand what happens developmentally at this age for girls (she is 9 in October).

What were or are your daughters like at this age and how do you best support them?

Does your DD do any sport or music activities?

My DD is 11 yrs old and loves her sport clubs outside school. It means she gets rewarded for what she can DO rather than what she looks like.

I'm reading the other responses with interest because this is something I really worry about although we've not had any issues (yet - fingers crossed).

The mirror thing was/ is an accident. There’s one on the inside of dh’s wardrobe, which has since migrated to ds’ room for his meet me at McDonald’s hair.
My dds non investment in their appearance is honestly mainly by chance and mirroring me, and I guess slightly less dh’s views, he does pay attention to appearances but not unnecessarily so and when he does, gets an 🙄 or sharp word but it did help going to girls’ schools.

^ I lost some punctuation there Vicky Pollard
The appearing concerned thing is about how you treat your own appearance you can tell her appearances don’t matter and she’s lovely inside and out until you’re blue in the face, but if you also spend a lot of money and energy on nails, hair tan and clothes that’s the message she’ll hear. That women need modifying.

but it did help going to girls’ school
Do you mean that girls going to girls school pay less or more attention to their appearance? Etino

DD loves sport, which is one of the reasons she doesn't feel she has much in common with the majority of girls in her class who are not into sport or at leafs not as much as dd is.

I think my dds were less self conscious and interested in appearance because they went to all girls schools. They certainly had moments of turning their skirts right up and experimenting with make up, but it passed. I’m not sure that’s the same for all girls, just my observation.

www.romper.com/p/11-things-to-say-when-your-daughter-insults-her-body-thatll-boost-her-confidence-3567

Really just encourage her to be herself.
What did you enjoy as a child, suggest those maybe.