To ask how you cope when your boss hates you?

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My boss blatantly hates me & doesn't try to hide it. Several of my colleagues have also commented on this!

So what do you do?

For context I am rarely off sick, work bloody hard and have never had any issue in my previous jobs. Infact my last manager (same company different department) can't sing my praises highly enough & contacted me recently about a potential promotion option for me.

I try not to let it get to me but honestly it's exhausting every day someone nit picking at you and as some of my colleagues have said it's like she's trying to break me so I leave!

I work in the nhs and up until 2 weeks ago have run my own specialised clinics for 5 years. I am good at this, I have a fantastic rapport with all my patients but now boss has decided I am no longer to do this. I am honestly at a loss with what else I can do.

Sorry that was so long,basically how can I not let her get to me & stop it impacting on my life out with work!? Thanks!

Any chance the promotion opportunity will get you away from that boss? If so go for it. Or see your manager about transferring departments if that's a possibility.

HR. Take other staff who have noted it too if you can.

Yes I'm waiting to find out about the promotion and basically hanging on to the fact that I'll be able to get out of there at some point. I'm quite limited as I can only do certain hours with my DD. (9-5) it's making me so miserable!

Also so as not to confuse anyone my manager is my boss, basically ward manager is the one who hates me. I have thought about raising a grievance but honestly I don't want to make it any worse while I'm stuck there. Although not sure how much worse it can get really..

Assert yourself

Start by keeping a diary and note everything for a few weeks

Then HR and apply for transfer

Onwards

I think the first thing you should do is read up on workplace bullying. What consitutes bullying etc. Then start keeping a diary. If he makes a snide sarcastic comment then you say what do you mean by that? Record as acurately as you can what was said, dates, times, locations, witnesses. Any emails he sends must be forwarded to a private email address as a back up so if there any 'glitches' happen your evidence is safe.

Read up on the company grievance proceedure.

Decide what you want to happen. Exit or stay in the job?

How to switch off I don't know.

Try and find another job? All this grievance stuff is unlikely to end well for anyone.

I’ve had a boss who hates me for almost two years. He always avoided talking to me, overlooked me when it came to promotions and now has engineered my redundancy.

I put up with it hoping he would leave, but turns out he’s getting me to leave. My advice would be either to get another job or lodge a complaint against HR before your boss does something similar to you. At least then you’ll have some evidence down the line.

I am actively trying to find another job however I'm looking for tactics I can use in the mean time to help me cope with her outrageous behaviour towards me. I also hate that she thinks this is acceptable & would do this to anyone else in future. I am aware I need to try and get out but other than her being there I actually really love my job which makes it worse! Thanks for all your suggestions.