AIBU to ask which decision you would never regret and are proud of

[ConfusedWife1234]

So there is this Thread about which of your decisions ou regret most and I enjoyed reading it. Now there is a question that came to my mind reading it: which is the decision you will never regret and which is the decision that makes you most proud in your life?

I will never regret deciding to keep my baby even though I felt completely out of my depth. As a family it was very tough for the first year (I split with the father and he moved out with the baby because my PND was so bad, but we are now back together and engaged, another brilliant decision) but he’s now nearly 4 and the best thing ever (along with his baby sister). I am also proud of deciding to make a complete career change when DS was 2, even though the thought of change terrified me. I went from working in a shop to becoming a massage therapist.

My ex used to beat the crap out of me. When I was pregnant with our last child he sat on my chest and strangled me until I was unconscious.

Eighteen months later he spat in my face and gave me a warning as he walked out the door.

I wiped the spit off my face, locked the door and told him where to go. Changed the locks.

I sound like an idiot for not walking before, but it was my proudest moment because I promised to always be a role model for my daughters. It really started there.

Crying now thinking about it!!!

Good for you @Bananas you sound amazing! 👊🏻❤️

@Millie: Now that‘s odd, because for me it is a similar thing. I actually wanted to wait with having kids until I was at least thirty but found myself pregnant much earlier... I chose life and never regretted it ever (and went on to have three more kids)
I also married his Dad... sometimes I regretted it a bit and wondered why on earth I did marry him because we are very different but overall I think it was a good choice.

Congrats @bananas. That was the right choice.

When DD was 2 weeks old it was one of the worst times of my life. Highly likely undiagnosed PND, combined with a baby who would not sleep at all, and just looking at her terrified the life out of me (and a not very supportive DH) - led me to pack a bag, make a plan to move away elsewhere with the money I had saved and leave them all behind. Not my proudest moment

I was too chicken to go through with it - and thank god. Almost 5 years later my DD (who got easier!) is my joy, she is kind and beautiful and deeply loved. I've also had a DS who I adore so much I could cry just looking at him. After stern words (and a near nervous breakdown) with the useless DH, he got better too and could not be more supportive this time round.

I was genuinely close to leaving them and that guilt stays with me every day, but I'm so pleased that I stayed.

bananas you are amazing!!!

I will never regret my actions on finding out ex H was cheating. He was stood outside with a change of clothes and no door key in less than 45 minutes after confessing.

Sticking with online dating after meeting a fair few freaks....I met my partner ( nearly 5 years together ) and it's changed my life. After 2 long very abusive relationships over a 25 year period I was a broken women suffering terrible anxiety and a serious eating disorder....5 years on I'm now 10 months free of my anxiety medication and 4 months in to a 5 month trip round the world. I'm really starting to like myself as a person and realise that I'm actually quite nice rather than the fat nasty idiot that I was forced into thinking for many years.....so still have a weight problem but I've managed to beat the compulsive eating and when we get home I will expand my exercise to help with the body shape.

Online dating ( Plenty of Fish) isn't for everyone but if you're sensible and think about personal safety it is really worth a try.

cherry so brave.

Lots of people who like cherries on tonight, but what a fab thread. Very strong women. All of you 🙌

I thought about starting this very thread earlier for the same reason

The thing I regret the least now was splitting up with my then fiance when there were too many red flags before red flags was a thing and everyone was telling me you just needed to work at relationships and compromise (to a point that comprise equalled total capitulaltion or indulging an abusive manchild)

One of the things I love most about MN is that a generation on we don't as much accept bad treatment as a reasonable compromise and something to put up with.

And the bravery of people on MN to seek support but also show others it is not okay.

Having my DS.

Weezol I love you. I only hope that you poked holes in all his pants before you gave him his remaining clothes. Either that or put dodgy looking stains on his trousers. Im not above petty revenge.

@CherryChasingDotMuncher my mum walked out on us on Christmas Day one year (arsehole dad went and fetched her back). It was a domestic violence and abuse situation where at the time she felt that we would be best off without her. We were only little at the time, but years later she still feels so bad about that. My brother, sister and I have all told her we dont and would never feel bad about it. She was so screwed up she honestly felt we would be better off.

Dont feel bad. Youre a human and a mum.Id challenge anyone to say that they havent felt overwhelmed at times. Be kinder to yourself!

oh, and @cherries I met my DP on POF. The thingy said list all the things you like and enjoy. I said 'fuck that' and listed everything that annoyed me/I hated.

Mr Bananas caught my eye with his response to my profile thing... 'I want to punch Justin Bieber in the face too'.

Three years and planning to have a baby, hes currently asleep on the couch drooling on himself. Cant decide whether to take a picture of him for blackmail purposes or get him a blanket.

I didn't, because I was being the bigger person. I did pack his huge range of spices with every third one upside down with a loosened lid. And may have removed random discs from his precious dvd collection. I heard the screws for his beloved desk also disappeared during him collecting his stuff. He's not good at practical things, so that will have been quite challenging for him.

He married OW. She's 15 years younger than him/me but now looks as ground down and knackered as I used to. She was young and daft, I just hope she doesn't waste her life on him.

Weezol thats crazy! Reminds of the time that my ex's DVD collection (over 200) got traded in for the princely sum of thirty odd quid. serves him right for putting the dvds in the same box as our wedding brochures hehehehehehe. Small victories. I earned a little bit of petty revenge. Its not big or clever but I enjoyed it.

Now I just focus on what my real aim is, which is (completely genuine here, not taking the piss) getting my law degree and becoming a solicitor so that one day I can take on the cases I choose to and represent women like me. Id do it pro-bono if I could.

I regret being with my ex for as long as I was.
I'm proud we had kids, because I have two kids with that arsehole. They both have ASN. They are my world

Thanks Bananas❤️

The support I've had on here over the years has been fab xx

Never regret marrying DH, having DC or buying our house.
Bitterly regret getting into debt & an old relationship that was sexually abusive for 5yrs