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AIBU?

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WIBU to leave a note in this car? A parking one!

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Baubilicious · 15/04/2018 00:23

Background... I live on a quiet side road off the main road entering a village. The main road is 40mph & the visibility around the corner on to our 30mph road isn’t great due to the angle of the junction and a highish wall. There are only about 8 houses on our road, all up one side of the road (all with drives) & the opposite side is fields. I am the first house off the main road. My road continues past the short row of houses to another village a mile or so away & just has fields on either side. There is a bus stop on the main road, about 15m from the junction with my road.

For the past couple of months a car has been parking directly outside my house, just around the bend from the main road. It’s there every week day from before 7am until after 8pm and seems to be someone leaving their car to get the bus to work. I hate that I am becoming one of those people but it’s annoying the hell out of me. I have had a couple of people knock the door to say it’s parked badly (they assume it’s ours) as it comes as quite a shock when you come around the corner to a very close car (I know people should drive slower around it but really it’s in a stupid position). It’s always bizarrely parked about a foot from the kerb so blocks cars from getting past when there are a couple of cars queuing the enter to main road from the opposite direction.

Mainly though I’m irritated that people think it’s my car. It really isn’t a struggle to park on our road so why not just park it after the 8 houses and walk a few metres more to the bus stop?

So, would I be unreasonable to put all this in a note on the car & politely ask if they could park after the very short row of houses where they won’t be in anyone’s way? I await my tearing apart with ‘you don’t own the road’ comments...

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Shadow666 · 15/04/2018 00:25

I think it’s worth leaving a note. You’re not telling them to park but suggesting a different parking spot. Hopefully they’ll pay attention.

Cheeseislife · 15/04/2018 00:26

I'd phrase it "seeing as you can't park for toffee, how about at least abandon your car in a safer place for everyone else up the road". But if you're not as cranky as me word it nicely but yes leave a note!

ladybirdsarelovely33 · 15/04/2018 00:27

I would try and catch the driver if possible if I were you and just have a friendly word. Phrase your request in a polite, friendly way. Sometimes, the tone isn't caught in a note.

Cheeseislife · 15/04/2018 00:27

Or put your own car there before 7 am one day so they have to park elsewhere!

YeahAndThenWhat · 15/04/2018 00:28

I think you can leave a note. If I were you I’d make it polite and friendly as though you are asking a favour. It’s more likely to get a result than anything else.

Also, would it be possible for you to park in such a way to make it difficult for the irritating parker to park in their normal irritating way?

ShinyShooney · 15/04/2018 00:29

Say people have been knocking on your door complaining- some of them very big and scary and you are concerned about the safety of their car.

snewname · 15/04/2018 00:30

I'd word it as "bloody lucky that I wasn't speeding any more as I very nearly took your car out as I turned the corner and came right on you. Shook me up. It's only a matter of time before someone does. Suggest you park in a safer manner"
Then it's not obvious it's you.

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Baubilicious · 15/04/2018 00:33

I can’t easily stop them parking there without parking as badly myself (my drive is immediately after their spot) & I would have to do it every day. One day a neighbour had a car there overnight (perhaps to deter them!) & they instead parked overhanging a different neighbour’s drive but were back again the day after when the space was free. I even got a knock on the door about it on that day when they weren’t even outside my house as the neighbour whose drive they were next to was annoyed that I had parked ‘my’ car overhanging their drive... ffs it’s not my car!

I will leave a note!

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Baubilicious · 15/04/2018 00:36

I was wondering how to word it to not make it obvious that it was me so that’s a good idea snewname

I would ask them face to face but I can’t easily see the spot without leaning out the bathroom window so not easy to stake out when they return.

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Weedsnseeds1 · 15/04/2018 00:37

I wouldn't put a note on the car, I'd make a little placard " please do not knock at no 1 to complain about vehicle ABC 123 XYZ. It's not my cat and I have no idea why they choose to park like a dickhead every day".

Weedsnseeds1 · 15/04/2018 00:38

Car, not cat obviously!

Gemini69 · 15/04/2018 00:43

park your own car there for a few hours...

eggcellent · 15/04/2018 00:44

Weedsnseeds1 haha I like that

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Baubilicious · 15/04/2018 00:51

I think I’ll go polite initially but will keep weeds suggestion for plan b

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 15/04/2018 00:52

You need the old Bird Seed on the Roof method.
Once its covered in pooh , they'll move it ( might be a bit Eh? if there's no trees but that's by-the-by)

Definately a note on the window though .

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 15/04/2018 01:00

You do realise though that it's your moral duty (seeing as you didn't provide a Diagram) to stake out this mystery parker.

I caught the Mystery Dog Walker who let her dog pee on my car and shit on my drive. I know all the dogs in our street and this one (by the size of its deposit) looked large so it ruled out NDN little guy.
I tried detergent, bleach, chalk messages on the pavement (Don't let your dog shit in my garden) .. nothing worked

Purely by chance I was in the bedroom, saw a woman and her large dog , it sniffed and squatted so I yelled out the window in a FishWifely Manner........ I swear the dog's bum sucked that pooh back up as they scarpered.
Result : no more pooh.

wastingtimeontinternet · 15/04/2018 01:02

If the way it’s parked is creating a hazard i’d contact your local police/ council and raise your concerns re a likely accident. Tell them people have been coming to you to complain about it (and log details any time anyone comes to complain to add to your case). You may be able to get double yellows there or something (i’ve no idea what the process is but worth trying)

malmi · 15/04/2018 01:13

Next time someone knocks on to complain about the car, tell them you can park your car wherever the fuck you like and they don't look like they've got the balls to do anything about it so they can fuck off and mind their own business.

That should get it sorted out. (NB slight risk of a brick through your window but I reckon it's worth it)

condepetie · 15/04/2018 01:22

"You park far too close to the corner every day. Your vehicle is a problem for other road users. Please do not park here."

A note would not be unreasonable. Also a note on your front door/gate saying that car reg XXX is not yours, any issues should be directed to the car where its owners will discover it.

An accident is sure to happen at some point. If they ignore you, their loss.

dontticklethetoad · 15/04/2018 01:22

If you report it to 101 and say that it is causing a hazard, they will call the owner and ask them to move.
I live on a really narrow road, someone starting parking like a complete bell end (pavement only on one side, driveways on the other. They were parked at an angle half on and half off the pavement and prevented me or whoevers house they parked opposite getting off their drives easily).
It was swiftly moved.

AcrossthePond55 · 15/04/2018 01:31

I'd leave a note along the line of "You're free to park where you choose of course, but I thought I'd let you know that your car has almost been hit multiple times from cars coming around the curve too fast" or words to that effect. Maybe the thought that his car will get damaged will make him want to park further up the road.

And I agree with putting a note on your door that "car XYZ does not belong to me, please don't knock to tell me you don't like how or where it's parked".

TheMaddHugger · 15/04/2018 01:34

Daifuku9 · 15/04/2018 01:59

Leave the note on your door explaining it’s not you car. Add paper and a pen, and a add to your note and invitation to leave their own note on the car. Perhaps if the rude car owner comes back to a car papered in several letters, they’ll stop.

Daifuku9 · 15/04/2018 02:02

Or get these

Just kidding!

WIBU to leave a note in this car? A parking one!

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