For someone to tell me it'll get better

[eyesonme]

Does anyone feel like life is just Groundhog Day, a hard slog to just finish the day all in one piece?

Exh left me two years ago, for another woman I later found out.
I have three young children who I now raise alone.
We had to sell the family home due to finances, so I moved into rented.
Landlord is selling so I'm having to move back into my parents with the kids.
My divorce came through this week.
It's exh weekend with the kids and I feel utterly alone and abit 'what's the point.'

I just want someone to tell me it will all be ok, in five years I'll be settled and my children will be ok.

No advice but similar situation except ex is completely absent. Every day feels the same and I can't see a time it will get better. (I have 4 kids under 8.)

Pretty- it's so hard isn't it. I was so happy before exh left and now I feel so unhappy and empty

When my exdp left I remember feeling like it hurt to breath which sounds ridiculous now but I was in a permanent state of panic and misery back then and I remember it vividly 5 years on.

I decided to write a list of all the things I couldn't do without being moaned at when I was with exdp- having a long bath with a glass of wine, dancing around the house of an evening in my underwear while I did housework, not doing the housework if I didn't feel like it, having friends over whenever I wanted etc etc. Every evening I picked something off of the list.

A few months later when I started to feel a bit better I sat down and thought about what I wanted my life to look like and how I went about getting there. I signed up to the OU and now I'm just finishing up my law degree and this week I switch from a 10 year dead end retail job into a legal one!

I also signed up to the gym (I was very overweight and not at all fit). I was so angry all the time and couldn't cope with it. I started going when I was pissed off and not leaving until I felt better. It meant I could sleep again and I felt calmer plus I lost weight and felt great (admittedly I stopped going two years ago, piled the weight on and am now trying to start that bit again but we'll ignore that part).

I can honestly say, despite never expecting to, I feel so much happier now. Plus I am much more independent and know how to be content with my own company. I learnt how it was best for me personally to combat feeling low or feeling angry etc and it's made a really positive impact on my life. Admittedly I only have the one DS but I still think the principle stands. Think how you want your life to look and make it happen by changing the things you can control - even if it takes years at least you'll know you're working towards your goals rather than just passively watching life pass you by feeling unhappy. See this as your chance to start again rather than an ending (cliched but true). Good luck

Sorry - my app is temperamental with whether or not it chooses to allow me to paragraph!

It really is. I'm just praying for the time to come that they are old enough to be left alone so I can have abit more freedom. Right now I have to take them literally everywhere. How old are your dcs?

@eyesonme not the same, but my husband died four years ago when I was pregnant with DD2.

I fought, kicked and dragged myself along and things got better. They really did. But you have to take the bull by the horns and make them so.

It will all be ok, you are doing a great job. Keep going x