Feel terrible my marriage is over

[Jordan4531]

We've only been married 6 months, together 6 years and my marriage has ended today. My husband saw red, trashed the house, almost hurt our 2 year old and strangled me. I got him out of the house and called the police, but I'm so scared for the future. I've already got my two daughters and I'm 3 months pregnant with my third, I do love him but obviously can't have him around my children . I've been crying all day and feel terrible that he has done this to me and our children. I'm lost and don't know what to do with myself. My mother has been round since it happened and my best friend is en route but what after that when I'm alone, pregnant and have no money.

I’m sorry I have little advice except to say I’m so sorry this has happened and that you will be ok. Make sure you and your children are safe tonight, get the locks changed today and check any joint accounts.

Why did he see red? What's the relationship normally like?

Normally find and because I told him I'm fed up of him spending all his free time away from us... either way it doesn't warrant strangling your pregnant wife

i'm so sorry, how awful

Of course it's going to feel terrible because to put it bluntly it is terrible but that is now and you can't see it yet but days months weeks and years from now this will just be a horrible time before the great part started!

You have taken the first step to a wonderful new life that does not include fear and violence towards you and your children.

I'm really sorry this is happening Jordan. Hold strong it'll be behind you soon and you'll wonder why it didn't happen sooner

I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. You're entitled to have a damn good cry, you've had a horrible experience and shock today. Take it one day at a time, look after yourself. Glad you've got your mum and friend there to support you. You can do this for you and your children.

You need to plan, and get advice, and start the process of child support.

Unfortunately you cant get divorced for two years but here is a guide and process.

www.divorceaid.co.uk/legal/process.htm

Was this the first time or is this a common occurrence?

OP, what a terrible thing to happen. Did it really come out of the blue?
Write down your account of what happened today. It will help you and you may need it.

Reassure your children.
Change the locks.
Check and secure any bank accounts.
Call a solicitor (get a recommendation from womens aid) and check your benefits situation on Monday.

Be prepared for social services to contact you, as police attendance at a domestic violence incident where children are present automatically means a referral to social services.
Your ex needs help, which he may or may not seek. you can't control that. You can only take charge of yourself and your children's safety.

NewYear why can't she get divorced for 2 years? What OP has described can count as unreasonable behaviour

Get some proper legal advice as, unfortunately, some people are talking bollocks. You can start divorce proceedings long before 2 years of marriage.

You have to wait until a year has elapsed to start divorce proceedings, not 2.

I'm honestly just so heart broken to think it's over. Yesterday we were completely fine, this morning we were fine but his temper is just indescribably bad since about 1pm. It was like a toddler tantrum but in a 6ft3 18st man

The kids have gone to bed and I'm sat not knowing what to do with myself. I just can't stop crying and I'm really worried in case the baby has been hurt