Dh and I have been together for 15 years. Always had an up and down sex life but generally good. 2 years ago I had the IUD removed as it was causing me problems and I felt it wasn't worth it due to the to periods of lack of sex. I thought we could just use condoms when we dtd. Dh doesn't like them. Never has. Around the same time, DH developed kidney stones and these persist to this day, he is due to have surgery to remove them soon. We have had sex twice this year. Both times, he couldn't finish.. Or even continue.
In the past, while sporadic, when we have had sex, its always been amazing, passionate, 4 hour long, peel me off the ceiling afterwards kinda sex.
But now he seems to have stopped bothering and so, ive stopped bothering to try to initiate it or even expect it.
There isn't any affection in the relationship, I don't remember the last time he touched me. Or me him. I know it works both ways and
I don't know if I am being unreasonable. But I feel daft being affectionate now. In fairness though. We've never been one of those touchy feely types of couples.
Ive always had a high sex drive and have a bob, theres several in our toy box actually. But over the last few weeks I've found this isn't enough. I miss the closeness and intimacy. Validation even.
What can I do? I keep telling myself that once he's had the op, things will get better. But I'm not so sure.
Everything else in the relationship is great. He's a good dad, provider. He helps around the house and he is my best friend.