As not to drip feed,
I don't have much to do with my dad, his choice, I've always been friendly and "pretended everything is fine" you can't miss what you've never had, and can't be doing with any hassle, I use to ring him and his wife every month or so to say hi, then me and my hubby had a house fire and we had to start again, I was so busy I thought actually I'll see if they ever ring me, nope! They didn't offer anything! Didn't speak to me for over 2 years and then when I finally called them it was like, hello, like nothing had happened, then a few years later we tragically lost our first baby late into pregnancy, after I called to tell them, thinking well now he will defo try and make an effort, nope! Nothing ! Didn't hear for 9 months! he didn't ring the week of the funeral or mention it or our baby again! This I can never forgive.
So fast forward to now,
I'm 37 weeks pregnant, told them over whatsapp about a month ago, and then I called about 2 weeks ago, he asked how we were and I said I was feeling unwell and might need to go into hosp as a few little issues just waiting for blood results he didn't ask what they were, I've heard nothing since, not even a text message , I'm 30, I don't need them, they actually have never caused me any happiness, I don't want to share my baby news with them when she arrives, so I have too? They know the due date, and I don't want to pretend either that I'm happy for them to know , I'm a big girl , self made, (had no choice lol) and I realise they don't actually care, but why do I feel like I have to be polite to them, they've never done anything for me .