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To be fed up of the playground office

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Dizzylin · 11/04/2018 18:52

I work part time and as part of my role I am the Team Managers right hand person. She called me into a meeting to inform me about goings on in the office on my days off. Basically a team member spoke out of term to our newish Manager and she had to have an official chat about her attitude which has been getting progressively worse since the Manager started in July last year. During this chat she mentioned me and my role, so not to drip feed, the position has only just been made official as in change of contact. When I returned from Mat Leave 2 years ago I spoke to then Manger and the office Manager about my role as they wanted me to take on more responsibility so I asked for a pay rise and a new job title to make it clear to others I was doing slighly more than the standard role. I had actually been doing most of it before Mat leave so took the opportunity to ask for recognision. Anyway my colleague asked how come the role hadn't been advertised, NM didn't know how the role had come about so couldn't answer her but explained I'd had the job for 2 years.

Also in the meeting she told me somebody had reported to HR that I'd put on FB that I'd worked from home when I'd had to stay at home with the kids due to the snow. I am one of the very few people to have a laptop at home after "temporarily" being given one 18 months ago to help work out with a big workload. I now do a few extra hours a month at home. This person was upset that they couldn't do that and had to go into work. If they'd have spoken to me I could have explained I had to stay home with the kids because of the snow and was lucky enough to have something that I could do at home without paperwork which isn't usually the case so I took advantage of it otherwise I wouldn't have got paid for the day.

I feel so fed up. Why can't people just come and ask? Both cases could have been cleared up easily. It's worse than a playground.

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Troels · 11/04/2018 19:25

I think I remember this from when we had lots of snow and school clousures. Wasn't the person who complained rude to you or something? So you were going to complain to the manager.

Dizzylin · 11/04/2018 19:45

Not me Troels, I've not posted about this before

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woollytights · 11/04/2018 20:04

You're taking things too personally. Their issues are that a promotion opportunity was not advertised, and that they weren't able to WFH on a snow day as the company hasn't given equal provisions to do so.

Why do you think you need to be involved in any of that? If they had come to you with those complaints, what could you have done about them? They did the right thing to go directly to somebody who has influence over these things.

Pinkprincess1978 · 11/04/2018 20:44

Non advertised promotions are tricky to deal with and in my experience it's better to advertise a 'promotion' and appoint the right person.

In terms of being able to work from home well that's just tough and works both ways.

I work in education so recently our schools shut for 3 days. I can work from home (with work laptop plus can do a lot of my work from home) but many I work with (teachers for example) so I had to see posts on Facebook about them having having fun with their kids while I worked!

Different bet jobs don't have the new treated equally but the same job should.

edwinbear · 11/04/2018 20:54

I'd have been annoyed if I'd had to arrange emergency childcare and get in to work on a snow day to find someone else has received 'special' treatment and hadn't had to make the same effort. You sound a bit patronising about it frankly.

NewYearNewMe18 · 11/04/2018 21:00

This is why you
(a) never list your places of employment in your FB profile
(b) never ever refer to anything work related
(c) never ever have any colleagues as FB friends

Dizzylin · 11/04/2018 21:05

It wasn't a promotion as such. It was a role that evolved over a few years and that's why it wasn't advertised. This is what I would have explained to the person who is upset about it.

With the snow day, again, I would have explained why I was able to work from home and why I did it. It's not given to everybody because one of the Directors doesn't like us working from home. I'm only allowed because our team is under staffed at the moment so it's needed and I'm the only one on the team willing to do it.

It's hard not to take it personal when it's your role being questioned but maybe I do need to learn to not take things personal.

I'm too much of a people pleaser.

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Barbie222 · 11/04/2018 21:37

You will irritate everyone up and down if you try to explain, reason or justify because that is stepping out of your role to do.

As an aside, teachers very much do work from home during snow days, and in fact do so most evenings days regardless of weather.

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