If people don't piss you off... what is your secret

[AmalClooneyisinVogue]

Are you easy going or just a wet lettuce?

Do you rise above the bitching and back biting or just join or stand up to them?

Just look upon them as mammals with their mouths moving and sounds coming out.

Works for me

I'm easy going and I don't feel I always have to prove that I'm right

I've recently returned to working in an office after a long period of working from home. Was really looking forward to having colleagues again. I think I've just got unlucky but I've never come across such a bunch of whinging, back-stabbing, "that's not my job" people in my life.

No, Amal - you are wrong - the office I worked in for 3 months until Easter, having had 10+ years working from home - contained the most whinging back stabbing lazy manipulative sly machievellian (sp?) twats EVER. I win. Or rather I lose, as I stupidly let it all get to me and then resigned.

Unfortunately I have a zero tolerance level for this sort of twattery and that does tend to cause me more problems than it causes the twatter him or herself. Watching with interest for tips.

I'm laid back but if I'm honest, I'm not really interested in other people enough to care what they think or do. Someone at work is quite lazy, every one is pissed off but I don't get too bothered as I work hard and the managers will catch them out eventually.

I'm laid back but am massively curious about other people's habits etc but not very materialistic. I'm just not bothered with detailed analysis and always try to look at the overall picture, I try to see the good in everything. I've also seen real hardship where I grew up, poverty, torture, war and depravity it puts things into perspective.

I momentarily think that's annoying by strangers/situations then I just move on. Life is too short. But having said that I have good people in my life generally. Lucky with family but also I'm not prepared to spend time with people who do not give back the same as I give. No angsting required, I just surround myself by ok people. I demand respect I suppose but it's not conscious.

I can't say I've ever met people Ive hated. I tend to see the best in people until they prove otherwise, and don't let minor faults bother me. None of us are perfect. I wouldn't surround myself with people with major faults. Disrespect would be a major fault though, but then because I come across as comfortable in my own skin people probably wouldn't try disrespecting me.
Is it the chicken or the egg?

I think I've just got unlucky but I've never come across such a bunch of whinging, back-stabbing, "that's not my job" people in my life.
I wouldn't give them headspace because I wouldn't take it personally. Of course I'd be disappointed that they weren't the friends I'd hoped them to be but I'd find another job or just make the best of things because the rest of my life is fulfilling enough.

Also just don't take anything personally.

When I do encounter bitches I tend to take the view that nobody horrible can have a truly happy life! - This too

I'm easy going.

I've always been fairly intolerant towards people being twats, but I'm definitely getting more and more irritated even by close friends. I'm blaming social media actually - I suspect some of these people were always quite annoying, but when I'm subjected to constant WhatsApp, FB and IG drivel I'm really starting to notice it more.

The older i get the more i get pissed off by bad manners and ignorance in public.

Some days i feel like the world is full of noisy self centered ignorant c*nts. In the shops. On the road. Everywhere. No concern for any other bugger but themselves. Old man fell over on the pavement the other day - so many just walked on by.

Einstein said something like ‘Genius has its limits but stupidity is infinite.’

Another saying worth remembering is ‘don’t attribute to malice, what could be down to stupidity. In fact advanced stupidity and malice are often indistinguishable.’

If I don't like something, I say it - straightforwardly - but not all the time. Mostly I try to keep perspective and recognise not everything is that important. Don't fuel the fire. Keep things to yourself, and have a sense of humour. Why choose to let others control your mood?

I think I'm fairly easy going and placid. But not passive.
Generally I just can't be bothered to get annoyed, wound up or offended. I don't have the head space.

My Mum does annoy me massively as she just yammers and yammers about shite, people I don't know and repeats herself A LOT(no dementia, she's always done it) but I try very hard not to show it as she would be hurt.

Unfortunately I have a zero tolerance level for this sort of twattery and that does tend to cause me more problems than it causes the twatter him or herself

Same here!

DS has just been made team captain. Several of the parents are complaining (behind my back) because he's not the best player. Well, no, he's not but he's been training and playing for years and his team mates bloody love and respect him because he's an all round good egg. Part of me wants to confront them for their twattery but I know I'll end up feeling worse.

I want to try and act conscientiously and treat the people around me with courtesy and respect. That way, when I encounter people who don't, I'm fortified in my unassailable tower of warm, snug superiority

😀

I'm fairly laid back. As I've got older I tend not to be interested in other people. I'm quite happy in my own tnough , so maybe that's part of it.
Was having a conversation with dp about the decline of pubs and increase in coffee shops.
I don't like many pubs, I don't like noise or tv s in pubs. I can't stand having to shuffle around for people to pass or people touching me to get past. I much prefer sitting at my own table I n a nice pleasant coffee shop, not interacting with strangers.

Brilliant not

I think growing reasonably as a person requires conscious reflection and a true desire to change or avoid repeating a mistake.

Unfortunately it's been my experience that there are a great majority of people out there with myopic tunnel vision and an inflated sense of their imagined superiority, without a degree of humility.

Bitchy perhaps but it's definitely how I see things play out. Manners, decency, respectful behaviour and professional conduct seem to count for sweet FA these days.

In addition, I remind myself that I'm nowhere near interesting enough to others and as such don't need to take rude, two-faced, poisonous behaviour personally.

I'm surrounded by brilliant people in my life so I know all the negativity can't be down to me

Hear hear Belinda

Congratulations to your DS on his captaincy!

Don't let the envious grind you down. And don't forget this:

I also find that finding twattery funny helps.

Ds was getting really wound up by constant unfair positive treatment towards a particular school friend. I told him to roll his eyes and find every time it happened funny as the whole thing was just so blatant and ridiculous. He did this and then he looked around at other peoples reactions. There were others, including adults who also appeared to look as he originally felt. From then on the more it happened, the funnier it was.

I've given this advice in rl and the feedback was it helped.

Just look at the ridiculousness of the person and situation and find it funny rather than get wound up by it.

Thanks, bluescreen - DS is chuffed to bits. And I've just screenshot that field of no fucks picture 😂

So I keep my mouth zipped rather than saying "oi, Mavis, your son might be wunderkind on the pitch and if only he hadn't inherited your boastfulness and mean spiritedness he might actually make captain one day. Stop bitching about my lad or

Quite honestly I've worked in security for well over 10yrs now and before that I worked in Secure mental health unit for 5yrs straight out of High school. My DGAF level is always high and my eye roll skills are impressive.

Now, add in the mix of working at Scottish Premier league football in Glasgow and the doors as SIA - men are the easiest people to get on with - woman drive me insane and are the worst of the bunch.

And I am a woman btw before I get accused of being a sexist pig or something.

@Hoppinggreen that's my mantra also.

Also don't expect anything from people - then you won't be disappointed.

I can't help but get pissed off when people do things I can't get away from though (eg booming music in an adjacent flat etc). I also try to do things when I know places are quieter if at all possible. 24 hour gyms and supermarkets are good for this.

If someone is annoying on a train or whatever then I move - I guess it's hard not to get pissed off it's that's not an option though!

But life is too short to become over-invested and as someone else said, anything could be going on behind the scenes.

I think it is a combination of not being interested in gossip/ not really caring about what other people do with their time, and an acceptance that my way of thinking and being is just one of many. So when people do or say things that I disagree with, then I just think, "Oh well, that's the way they are", and go on about my business.

I'm going to start shrugging more. And mentally saying meh