Will it get better/easier

[browneyes3753]

Posted on here for traffic. DD is doing her fifth of our 8 nursery settling in sessions as I write. I know that's a good amount but I feel like she is getting worse not better. She clung to me and cried today. She is a breastfeed baby almost one now. She still feeds a lot aswell so I'm worried how is coping without regular milk and wondering if that's part of the problem (she won't take milk from anyone else) She often needs me to settle her even DH can't sometimes. Sat in a cafe feel like crying. Please tell me it gets better. Has anyone's child ever not settled and they had to be pulled out?

It will get both better and easier, it's a settling in period for both of you. Nursery staff are really good at what they do, and babies / children respond very differently to them, than to their parents. You're in the cafe, so you can't see that she was probably absolutely fine about 5-10 minutes after you'd left. She will be realising that you always come back to get her too. Just make sure that you don't let her see your own upset when you do drop her off, as they can pick up on that.
It can all be a bit horrible for a while, but it will get better!

Hello, it's really hard leaving your baby, whether it's nursery, nanny or another arrangement. All I can say is that it does get easier.

You'll probably find that she's stopped crying soon after you have left!

Be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes, you will both adjust.

That's why they do settling in sessions
All will be well I am sure

I know it feels really raw and emotional right now because it's a new thing for you both, but give it a good period of time before you think about pulling her out. I would say it took DD and I about 6 weeks (full time) to feel happier about the whole thing. We had both got to know everyone by that time. My DH also did some of the drop-offs which can help too. Are you happy with the nursery you've chosen?

I used to have to peel DD's tiny baby fingers off me, when I handed her over to the childminder. I went back to work at 6 months (because I'm old and that's what we did then). Fortunately, she was my second, but it was really grim. She used to howl like a banshee and really, really hate the handover. It used to make me sweat with anxiety. She did eventually settle though and she's 16 now and you'd never know it!

Take heart, enjoy your cup of coffee and try not to despair. All phases pass with babies/children and this one will too. Big hug to you as I do remember how horrible it was.

Thank you everyone your kind comments have all been really reassuring. I can't believe how hard I'm finding it. Before I had DD I had all these plans about when I was going back to work. I didn't have a clue!
When I went back they said she had been ok crying occasionally and she cried when I arrived. I am happy with the nursery they have been great and have offered more free settling in sessions next week.