Why would anyone think this is OK to do?

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Barbaro · 10/04/2018 20:55

I struggle to see why anyone would do this. My boyfriend recently found out that despite telling his ex to deal with a bill that he had been paying for her during their relationship and to pay for it herself, she didn't bother and just let him keep paying it. For over a year.

Now he is an idiot too for 1. Not even noticing and 2. Not checking she had changed the details, I'm not saying he is innocent here, I told him he was an idiot.

But how can someone actually be OK to do that? What goes through someone's mind to think it's OK to let someone else pay their bills? She apologised, but didn't offer to pay him back. He isn't gonna ask her for the money either as it would mean having to talk to her (his words, not mine). She probably couldn't afford it anyway now as its like over £300 she owes him.

It shouldn't really shock me I guess, not everyone in the world is nice, but it does.

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NC4Now · 10/04/2018 20:57

I don’t know. Oversights happen.
I couldn’t get enraged about someone else’s finances. It’s for them to sort or not sort.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 10/04/2018 20:58

If it was my ex who owes me a fortune both in child support and other money I wouldn’t happily let him continue paying it for as long as I could get away with.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 10/04/2018 20:59

It’s between them,and if he can’t be bothered with the arse ache of talkin to ex,fair enough
You're not here to fight his corner over the minutiae of a bill,who said,who paid
Let it go.hes adult it’s up to him,if you as new gf Wade in you’ll look proper bulgy eyed

ForTheLoveOfSleep · 10/04/2018 21:01

Why didn't he cancel the direct debit when he decided to stop paying?

Maybe she forgot?

Don't assume it was done maliciously.

Could just be an honest mistake.

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Barbaro · 10/04/2018 21:01

I'm not a new girlfriend, been with him for a year. I'm not actually annoyed either or getting involved, I'm more just shocked that someone thinks that's an OK thing to do. It's his fault for not checking she changed it and not checking his statements. It's also his choice to either get the money back or not. I am not telling him what to do on any of it.

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ShinyMe · 10/04/2018 21:02

If he wants to pay £300 for the privilege of not having to talk to someone, that's his choice.

To be honest I'd happily pay that not to have to talk to some of the people I have to talk to.

GabriellaMontez · 10/04/2018 21:04

Hmm I'd love to know her version of this story.

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 10/04/2018 21:05

I simply couldn’t get bothered about this,it’s his lookout.and he’s not bothered

CheeseandGherkins · 10/04/2018 21:05

What "details" did she change?

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