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Instagram likes for husband who walked out

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MINKY75 · 10/04/2018 08:58

Please help me find context! My husband walked out on me just before Xmas. I have lots of supportive friends, one in particular who I'm confiding in. She has said she's totally team 'me' but continues to follow, comment on and like his social media posts. We only spoke yesterday about how low I was (the kids are having a few days away with him) and right after she's liking pics of them on holiday with him. Am I unreasonable to feel crappy about it?

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bryheresse · 10/04/2018 09:01

Just block his page and don't look at who likes his posts. You don't need to know.

Treezabreeze · 10/04/2018 09:04

No, unless she is a good friend of his, then she might not want to take sides, but if she is supposed to be your friend only then.....?? Yeah I would be annoyed too.

MoistCantaloupe · 10/04/2018 09:05

I agree with bryheresse.
It's hurtful to see your friends engage in his posts, but by following him you're always going to be feeling negative emotions There is no reason to follow him now - you'll just look at something that brings you down. Block his page and get on with your day

DaenerysismyQueen · 10/04/2018 09:06

She's probably only liking the pictures because your DC are in them at a guess.

shortcutcity · 10/04/2018 09:08

I'd be annoyed too, to be honest. But, have a think about whether you want to lose a friend over it, if you mentioned that you didn't like it to her.

Caramina · 10/04/2018 09:11

A friend of mine was liking photos of the woman my ex cheated on me with. I confronted her calmly about it. She just said it was because she was in to fitness and she followed her plans. Friend is a personal trainer and it made sense. She still follows her. Doesn't bother me now.

Your friend will tell you what you want to hear when you are with her but at the end of the day she probably has a connection with both of you.

Either you are still friends with him on instagram (he needs to go) or he's posting pics of your kids on an open site with no security (not great) so this needs to be sorted either way.

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MINKY75 · 10/04/2018 09:12

I don't want to lose her as a friend. I guess it makes me distrustful, saying one thing then acting in a different way. I had a dream last night that we were all together in the same roI'm and she exposed her chest to him...think my subconscious is trying to tell me something!!

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Caramina · 10/04/2018 09:15

Sounds like your friend just has no tact. I also think it's a shame to ask her to be to 'team you' - it's a bit childish. My parents split up and their friends are all still pretty mutual. No 'teams' - even my mothers sister still speaks to my dad, and my mum and dad don't get on at all.

Can see why it would upset you but I don't think it's a huge deal. Block his Instagram and ignore it!

Jobjobjob · 10/04/2018 09:25

That would piss me off! But for your own sanity block him from your social media.

GinThanks

Stephthegreat · 10/04/2018 09:34

I think it’s a loyalty thing,I wouldn’t do it to a friend and wouldn’t want them to do it either to me.Id block him and wouldn’t tell your friend everything any more,could be a sign she’s not as loyal to you as she says.

Dangerousmonkey · 10/04/2018 09:35

She is probably keeping tabs on the kids. Tell her about how you feel, ask her for her take on it.

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