To wonder why I still look so bloody fat!

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This time last year I weighed around 10 stone and I'm 5 foot 6. I think my bmi was around 23.

Now I weigh 8 stone 3lbs and my bmi is 18.5 but I look fatter than ever. I have worked really hard to drop the weight and I'm finding it depressing that I still look like this. I think maybe I need to work on toning my stomach as two children and two c-sections have taken their toll.

DH remarked last night that I still look flabby but I don't think losing more weight will necessarily help...

Aibu to wonder how other people look slim at my sort of weight but I look so big still?

That was a horrible thing for him to say, but you also may need to accept that weight loss alone will not correct the effects of two pregnancies plus c-sections.

A lot of us don't have enough skin elasticisty to ever ping back into shape- regardless of how many salads we eat or sit up we do.

Make your peace with it. Creating life is an amazing thing to do. Looking good in a bikini is so very much less an achievement.

You probably have diastasis recti - my twins are 18 months old and I definitely still have it. I would look up some exercises for that.

I’d also lose 12 stone very quickly if my husband made such a nasty comment...