Year anniversary..

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So I guess I wanted to see if I was being unreasonable, friends are divided!

Year together with my partner this weekend and I can honestly say it's been amazing. I finally feel I've met someone who is right for me, we do LOTS together and have spent every weekend together since we met bar I think 2. I've done more with him than I have long term relationships and he makes me very happy. Anyway queue me checking we were going out this weekend and he's told me he's spending it with a friend? Got the weekends mixed up? To say I was disappointed is an understatement.

So is it a big deal really? Should I let it go and do something next weekend ?
How many of you did something?

If you spend most weekends together, and will be together next weekend, I would let it go. Plenty more anniversaries ahead!

Some people are very good with dates, some aren't.
Some make big fusses about anniversaries, some don't.

If you expect a big fuss on an anniversary, then you need to have made sure your partner knows this.

For what it's worth, my ex girlfriend was hopeless at remembering when we got together, I was always the one remembering - just before anyone says "men are always useless at this"

Thanks for the replies.

Yes we spend every weekend together which I guess just annoys me that this one that's a specific one he's with friends?..I'm not one for a big fuss and he's messed the weekends up but just typical it's this one out of a whole years worth!

And yes lots of men are rubbish and I need to remember that!

user Actually, no, you need to remember lots of people of any or all genders are rubbish.

For my one year anniversary this year we went away but oh my god the ball ache in organising that. He wanted to mark it but men just don’t seem to be as bothered as women. Just do something another time and try not to get bothered by it, I know it’s annoying

TBH I would be annoyed too. I remind my husband at least two weeks in advance of any special occasion to cancel all plans with his friends if he has any so we can have our special date.
I can't even remember what we did for our first year anniversary.

What shatnerswig said.

I am the one that can’t remember dates in our relationships. I just remeber when met when it was “hot” so June-August sometime.

He remembers our anniversary for 1st date and proper “going out”

People are different 🤷‍♀️

Sorry but I’m a useless woman with dates too. My dp always remembers our anniversary with a card or a little treat but I’m terrible. We’ve been together 22 years. He’s used to it by now....

Oh god I have no idea when dp and I even got together. We only ‘do’ anniversaries since we got married as you can’t really forget that date... yet, (thanks to sil for the giant memorial canvas thing with date on it which I now can’t throw out...).

It’s lovely that it’s a special date for you, but he might not have realised.

And yes lots of men are rubbish and I need to remember that!
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PS: I’m a woman

Surely you don't really have an official "anniversary" unless you're married? Wedding anniversary we celebrate (low key), but we certainly didn't celebrate anything before marriage. What do you take as the start point? Day you first met? First date? First kiss? First shag? Officially being BF&GF/exclusive? Day you first said I love you?

I think that if you wanted to make a big deal about this, which I think would be quite an unusual thing to do for many people, then you needed to be very clear about your expectations and block the time out on the calendar well in advance. I doubt your boyfriend meant to offend, he probably just hadn't really realised it was an occasion that he was expected to celebrate.

Thanks for the replies.

Yes it's not the end of the world I just wanted opinions and those I have! I'm not great with dates but he did know has just messed up that's all.
I knew some would be on the bandwagon of the fact I put 'men' I only put it because I was relating to a man forgetting..nothing meant by it?!

Me, for example, ShatnersWig. I should remember, it was the summer solstice.

Must admit I don’t celebrate anniversaries when we got together? Maybe a wedding anniversary but no others. Maybe he doesn’t see it as important either?