How did you know it was over?

[MrsWineasaurus]

Just that really, when/how did you realise your marriage was over? Xx

Not married but I realised that I was happier day dreaming about a life without him than one where he was in my life forever.
I felt nothing but obligation and duty. No love.

When I caught him on the phone to OW when he was in the bathroom

If you are asking yourself the question, OP, that's probably a sign

I realised all I would miss was my vegetable garden.

I knew if I didn’t leave that night, I’d lose too much of myself to have the strength or will to bother in future.

I did and slept well that night for the first time in months.

Never looked back.

I think also the growing realisation that as scared as I was of leaving, about money, where to live, what people would think, being single forever, the prospect of staying was worse.

He came home from a week away studying and I just couldn’t find it in me to lie and say “I missed you”. I went out with work colleagues,as planned, that night and met now DH#2, I never looked back.

We’d been arguing for months and suddenly I just didn’t care enough to argue.

Not a marriage, but I was in town shopping for Christmas presents and I couldn't bring myself to buy him one. The thought of waking up on Christmas morning pretending to be happy just stopped me in my tracks.

I escaped on 3rd December

When you realise you can't be bothered to argue about the stuff that annoys the hell out of you. That's when you realise you just don't care anymore.

I regularly daydreamed about me and dd living on our own without him.

I used to hope he would cheat on me so I could leave him and not feel guilty.

When I discovered that he secretly read the Daily Mail

When he told me (after begging for and getting his last chance 6 weeks previously for being so vile to me) that I was a shit wife, a shit mother and a shit daughter. All screamed at me with a finger have

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All with a finger jabbed in my face.

I was done, it was over. I never once regretted my decision.

When I felt more disappointed when he wanted to try again, than I had felt when he had stormed off to his mums for a few days. I felt relieved when he had gone to his mums.

When he physically assaulted our (small special needs) 15 year old DS three weeks ago after many years of being intolerant and angry towards him.

It was the F*ck You moment that I now wish had happened ages ago as our poor boy has grown up with an EA father while his sisters could do no wrong.

He's moving out next week & my divorce papers are being prepared. I feel strong, positive and as if an enormous weight has been lifted from me.

I'm starting to think my relationship is nearing the end. A few reasons but one being that I cannot bare the thought of being naked in front of him as it all seems too personal (if that makes sense).

@woobeedoo makes total sense - the last few months of my relationship I wouldn’t get undressed in front of him either let alone anything else. The thought of him touching me just made my skin crawl even though i’d been with him 5 years