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To want help from DH when I have flu?

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Coffeeelover · 09/04/2018 18:40

I have 3 young chilldren and have the flu really bad. DH just called on his way home from work and he knows I have flu and said he’ll get himself a takeaway because I am ill. He then asked me to get the kids ready for bed so he can eat when he gets in and I said no I can barely move. He hung up on me!

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endofthelinefinally · 09/04/2018 18:43

Wow. He sounds charming and considerate.
If he is getting himself a takeaway he should bring some for everyone.
Can you order pizza or similar for the DC?

Is he always like this?

limon · 09/04/2018 18:43

Yabu to call it "help". It's simply looking after his kids. He's a dick if the highest order. When he gets in, go to bed and he will have to step up and be a decent human being.

MegEmski · 09/04/2018 18:43

Wow. Is this a one off, or is he always that much of a dick?

RedSkyAtNight · 09/04/2018 18:44

He hung up deliberately? Or he was cut off?

WowLookAtYou · 09/04/2018 18:44

He's being an arse. Do NOT give in and attempt to do it. He can either eat his dinner and then put the kids to bed (and make you something if you fancy it), or put the takeaway to keep warm whilst he sorts them out.
It's no more to expect than any other full-time worker who has kids. He's lucky if you're normally there to do it.

Flowers Hope you feel better soon.

missymayhemsmum · 09/04/2018 18:45

If you have flu you can't safely look after 3 kids. He's going to have to take time off and look after you all. I've just had it and couldn't even look after dd11 and myself properly without help and it lasted nearly 2 weeks.

Nonamesleft14 · 09/04/2018 18:47

I hope you get well soon. I hope more that he catches your flu and when he asked for something you can tell him to swivel.... What an arse 🤨

Grumpyoldblonde · 09/04/2018 18:48

Yet another wanker.
You're ill and need looking after, don't try to struggle through, insist he steps up.
Hope you get better soon and hope he catches it.

Idontdowindows · 09/04/2018 19:00

Does he have form for being a knob?

zozozoo · 09/04/2018 19:11

Wow. My ex husband might have done similar. It's pretty much the reason we're no longer together as I never got over the fact he didn't even offer me a glass of water

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Coffeeelover · 10/04/2018 07:19

Hahaha thanks for your comments everyone it made me smile. He was ok in the end when he got over himself. And I went straight to bed when he got in and he made me a drink and bought it up after getting the kids in bed but was grumpy. I told him this morning he was really unsympathetic and he apologised so hopefully a one off! I’m not I’ll very often and reminded him that i usually just get on with it! I think he felt bad!

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