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Half birthdays a thing now?

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Dancingmonkey87 · 09/04/2018 13:41

Ds is born on February the 8th and without fail every year Sil makes abig song and dance about her dd celebrating her “half birthday” on ds birthday. (she also celebrates her dd birthday on the original date) Aibu to think she’s batshit to hijack her DN birthday?

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Dancingmonkey87 · 09/04/2018 14:33

PyongyangKipperbang No my eldest ds is 9 almost 10.

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AllMyBestFriendsAreMetalheads · 09/04/2018 14:34

Firstly, I keep singing the un-birthday song from Alice in Wonderland.

Secondly, surely there are a bunch of days that this doesn't even work for? When is the half birthday of someone born on the 31st August?

TERFousBreakdown · 09/04/2018 14:37

What? Is this actually a thing now?

I shall be taking myself out for an after-work drink with my team then. It's my 1/365 birthday today!

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obligations · 09/04/2018 14:37

Presumably her birthday is in the summer so she can't have a party after school/friends might be on holiday, so would it be that????

lardass88 · 09/04/2018 14:39

What the hell is a "half birthday"? Never heard of it

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Dancingmonkey87 · 09/04/2018 14:39

My dd is August born no issues with parties

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Dancingmonkey87 · 09/04/2018 14:40

obligations She celebrates her “normal” birthday no problem.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 09/04/2018 14:40

So its specifically your son she has an issue with? Does she have sons or wanted them? Did she have the only grandson?

Trying to work out why she has such an issue with him! Its clearly jealousy, she doesnt want any attention on him, but why?

bunbunny · 09/04/2018 14:41

Does that mean your ds celebrates his half birthday on dn's birthdays?

Would try to work out a suitably PA facebook post to stick up when your sil posts about the birthday 'Ooh that reminds me, that makes it ds's all important half birthday today - best pop to the shop for a special half a cake for his tea and ask Her Maj and Paddiington Bear how you're supposed to celebrate a second birthday.. Grin'

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Dancingmonkey87 · 09/04/2018 14:42

I don’t knowPyongyangKipperbang she did want dn to be a boy but she just had her own ds now but this year she did the same again this year.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 09/04/2018 14:42

Sorry, got mixed up....

so you have a son, a daughter and another son and it is just the youngest she is doing this to and didnt start doing it until he was born?

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Dancingmonkey87 · 09/04/2018 14:43

bunbunnyYes ds would have his “half birthday on dn birthday.

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Dancingmonkey87 · 09/04/2018 14:44

PyongyangKipperbang Yes I got three dc ds1 dd and then ds2. She’s only started doing this when ds was born

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PyongyangKipperbang · 09/04/2018 14:50

How many children does she have? Could it be a case of jealousy that you had a third child and she wants one but cant/husband wont do you think?

00100001 · 09/04/2018 14:52

it's the same BS as giving siblings presents on birthdays "So they don't feel left out"

TheJoyOfSox · 09/04/2018 14:53

I’d be tempted to say “happy Tuesday” and then ignore her. It’s not her child’s birthday, and everyone should be making a fuss of the birthday boy or girl, not her child.

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Dancingmonkey87 · 09/04/2018 14:53

2, they only wanted 2 kids.

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BookWitch · 09/04/2018 14:54

A friend of my DD's had a half birthday each year (25th June) , as her actual birthday was Xmas day.
She still only had one birthday party though

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 09/04/2018 14:56

Next thing will be very merry unbirthday parties

PyongyangKipperbang · 09/04/2018 14:56

It just seems such an odd thing for her to do, there has to be more to it than mere coincidence. Maybe she thinks your kids get more attention by virtue of there being three of them. A similarish thing happened in my family when one cousin kicked off when her sister had a second child. First cousin was angry that her 2 kids wouldnt get the same amount of grandma's time as they did before and blamed her sister for having another baby!

GerdaLovesLili · 09/04/2018 14:58

Used to do a half-birthday for Large Son as it was the same day as his GM's actual birthday and gave us an opportunity to have an outside picnic-y thing where the whole family would fit.

A December birthday is a bit grim sometimes especially if it falls in the school holidays, and the weather is not likely to be good.

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Dancingmonkey87 · 09/04/2018 14:59

There’s definitely jealously there PyongyangKipperbang we are local to my mother, she’s not local to her own mother or mine but that’s down to personal choice on their part. I take my dc round to see my parents ( my df is terminally ill) she hasn’t been up in the area in over a year and half again that’s her own choice, although my parents have visited my df has taken a turn for the worse so he is unable to visit anymore.

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DiplomaticDecorum · 09/04/2018 15:00

Not a thing afaik, but I will admit to planning a 'half birthday' camping party for ds11 in june this year, as he wanted to have a sleepover in the garden like his (summer born) brother did.

UrgentScurryfunge · 09/04/2018 15:05

I've only experienced it with Christmas birthdays. A uni friend had a 21st 1/2 birthday party as not too many people would have found Boxing Day practical.

We did half birthday presents for DS for a similar reason in his first few years. His developmental needs varied massively from 1 to 2 so it made sense to buy things for 18m which would have been bought between times anyway. No wrappings, cake or expectations on others.
So far we've had no issue with parties, but I'd be happy to do a June party instead one year if that would be more appropriate.

Seems daft when there's no issue with dates to begin with and just mean to impose on someone else's occasion.

FloydOnThePull · 09/04/2018 15:07

I have a relative who has 2 DDs the eldest is born in early December and the youngest in July. They always have a joint party for the two of them in July on DD2's birthday because apparently it's not fair on DD1 that she has to have her birthday in the winter when it's cold and DD2 gets a party outside with her school friends in the summer. I never say a word (other than to DH who also thinks this is potty), but they still have a party for DD1 in December and seemingly have no awareness that it's grossly unfair to DD2 that she has to share her party every year and DD1 gets 2 birthdays.

I can't begin to imagine how much the therapy bills are going to be when DD2 reaches adulthood!

Half birthdays are madness (and I say that as someone who has a birthday in the grim winter months)