To wonder how much to let go?

[Pinksocksandlollipops]

DH and I have got ourselves into an awful cycle of arguments over the past few months. I feel like i am to partly to blame as i just can't let anything go...every horrid look he gives me, replying to simple questions with a nasty tone for no reason, tantrums like a two year old over ridiculous things, being generally miserable...all of these things he does really wind me up. I'm just wondering if I should let things go a bit more but worried that if I do then he will think this is acceptable behaviour...

For example, we trot along through life with no arguments if I don't comment on the fact that he just wanders around the house not doing anything....but then i feel like I am giving him the impression that this is acceptable....

I feel like I can't win. How much should I let go of and when should I make a point of saying something?

I just want us to be happy but feel i have to ignore everything just to get some peace.

He doesn't sound very easy to live with
Why should you let it go when he's unfair or unkind to you?

Would it be worth trying counselling? Or at least sitting down and making some agreements about things - for example how you split the housework? That way maybe you could to some negotiated agreements rather than building up all this emotion and sniping at each other.

DeathStare We do sit down and talk but it seems to last for 24 hours maximum and then he will let things go again.