To assume he’s not interested and never was?

[NachosGrandes]

Guy I like, couple of years younger and a very good friend’s brother (we are both in our twenties). Both in slightly different life stages right now. He’s always been quite flirty and jokey with me but a little shy - he’s a big personality though and have since seen he’s very playful with everyone. I had a brief thing with one of his friends a couple of years back (nothing really happened but just went to his house after a night out and a drunken snog...!) and he had teased me about it ever since. He also tried to set me up with a friend of his a few months ago and we went on a date but nothing came of it after. He now has a gf anyway so nothing happening but all this points to the fact he doesn’t really fancy me right?! I’m sure I felt a vibe originally and he spends a lot of time together with me and his sister when I’m with her (hangs out with us etc), joins us on nights out but I only see him occasionally anyway. Argh

Agreed with PLT. Not all men and women are happy to be with someone who's already dated a friend. Maybe he did like you and that's why he joked about it. Could be a point of principle for him.

Read the book 'he's just not that into you'

If he wanted to be with you, he would have asked you out.

If he was really interested, for all this time, he'd be dropping hints to his Sister, by now.

You're his Sister's BF, so he likes your FB stuff, when he sees it (which is why it seems random), he isn't taking as much notice of you, as you are of him.

The joking is what friend's Brothers do, isn't it? Your just reading too much into his being friendly.

I wanted to say that @BuntyII but feel like a broken record. Maybe it should be given out at PSHE at school??

I agree with @Juells.

There might be rare cases of men being too shy to ask women out, over a period of acquaintanceship lasting months, but generally this is a myth which exists to spin out chick lit novels.

he might think you're abit of a goer

For going for a drink with a fella and daring to snog another one? Really? And 'available to anyone'

If that was his attitude, he'd be a twat and she shouldn't date him anyway.

But sorry OP, I don't think he fancies you whatsoever.

I kinda think maybe your reaching here. He's your best friends brother and he may actually just be a flirty type. If he liked you he wouldn't have set you up with someone, in fact he'd have done everything in his power to stop it.

I think he probably sees you as his big sisters best mate and that's it.

I also think it's quite common if we fancy someone to try to convince ourselves they must fancy us back.

he might think you're abit of a goer

For going for a drink with a fella and daring to snog another one? Really? And 'available to anyone'

If that was his attitude, he'd be a twat and she shouldn't date him anyway.

But sorry OP, I don't think he fancies you

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This, I don't think he fancies you either I'm afraid.

As for thinking you may be 'a bit of a goer' prettylittlething ... Jesus Christ!! Wtf, it was a kiss and a date, she's not sucked off half his tutor group!!