To not forgive/ have an opinion?

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Have namechanged for reasons that will be obvious.

Last year my mum found out that my brother has been selling class A drugs, using her house to store them and have friends pick them up from there. This obviously caused massive upset in our family which has never really been resolved.

I'm at the end of my patience with all his behaviour, he's massively arrogant, never apologised to my mum or made amends, anything you say to him gets turned round so nothing is ever his fault etc.

I'm pretty much NC with him at this point, not spoken to him for months and he'd never bother trying to put things right but apparently I should forgive/ put up with everything because "he's my brother" and I shouldn't have an opinion because it's nothing to do with me (said when trying to speak to DH which is a whole other thread). I think when he's put my mum's house at risk, younger siblings at risk from whoever might have turned up at the door, not to mention all the people's lives at risk who he sold too all because money means more to him than anything else, i have every right to have an opinion and let him know what I think of him. I'm not being overly dramatic with the last one before I get accused of that from the drugs aren't as bad as people make out camp, this was around the time of a high number of deaths in my area from the same drugs.

Thanks if you've read to the end of all that. My AIBU is am i too involved and not to move past it, how would other people react in the same situation?

You are entitled to an an opinion about anything.

People should respect that.

Sorry if I am being thick but it isn't clear who is saying things to you? Your mum? Dh? Who?

I have no truck with drug dealers .

But this is your mothers business with her son. It's not your 'beef' so back off and let her deal with it as she sees fit.

You're entitled to your opinion of course, but in reality none of this is your direct business. Unless of course DM is intimidated and worried - but nothing in your post indicates that she is anything but a passive accomplice.

Thanks for the replies, guess I am being overly involved to some extent. It's just hard to see my mum upset over the way he is and not get involved IYSWIM.

@PrettyLittleThing it was DH who was saying I should not bother about it. Some things are still ongoing issues between my mum and brother which she talks to me about so I was talking things through with him for another opinion.

@Newyear she was worried about people coming to the house when it first came out, not so much now that some time has passed. She was in no way an accomplice, she has a job where this just wouldn't be tolerated at all and is a very moral person who would never engage in any drug related behaviour. She genuinely had no idea what he was doing, which I know is a line said by a lot of people in similar circumstances but is absolutely true.