To ttc while applying for jobs

[SharedLife]

I have PCOS and am over 30 and over 20 stone so getting pregnant is very much not guaranteed. (I have spent the last 20 years trying to loose weight before anyone suggests that)

I am currently an adult foster carer (official title is Shared Lives carer- an adult with LDs lives with me, DH and DD 7) I am in the fortunate position that I could work full time outside the home also. I am fully qualified in a professional field- and could earn an additional 30k a year if i did this full time.

Im also desperate for another DC.

Should i put that life on hold while I TTC (possible to no avail) or should I just go for the jobs im excited about while we TTC along side (even though financially I dont really need to)? It feels rather rude to go for a job knowing that there is a ( albeit slim) chance of leaving for maternity leave 9 months in...

AIBU?

I wouldn't have any moral qualms about this. What if you got pregnant six months after you took the role? Twelve months? They'd still be paying for a period of maternity leave/funding cover, regardless of how long you'd been in the role.

Good luck with TTC.

I'd say go for the jobs if that's what you'd like to be doing if TTC doesn't work out.

Meaning, No don't put your life on hold.

Go for it. It’s likely to take you a while to conceive. You can’t put your life on hold for a pregnancy that may/may not happen. Good luck with all of it.

Given the liklihood that it is most likely going to take a while to get pregnant I don't think it should play any factor in your choosing to apply for positions. It's one thing if you knew that you would most likely conceive within the first three months. There you have a definite time frame but what you are proposing is to out life on hold indefinitely. I certainly wouldn't expect that as an employer.

Do both and deal with whatever happens. It is your life, not your employer's. You know you will be fine financially whatever happens so good luck.

I'm going to disagree - and no doubt be flamed.
Tough on the employer, and the other unlcuky candidates if you were to get the job and immediately go off on maternity.

Do it. Employers will always act on their own interests, why shouldn't you?

Thank you so much for taking the time out to reply, whatever side you come down on. I really appreciate it.