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Aibu to be upset by 5.30am phonecall from grocery delivery driver?

67 replies

GeeGaw42 · 08/04/2018 15:55

I had my shopping delivered last night and the delivery driver rang me to see if I was ok with him being half an hour early. I was fine with that so he dropped off the shopping at the door and we had a chat - he was quite friendly for a change to usual drivers and told me he was lokking foreard to going out after his shift to meet gfriend etc. I said thanks for delivery and thought no more of it.

This morning at 5.30 my mobile rang. I rejected the call and went back to sleep as I didnt recognise the number. When i got up later and checked my phone I realised it was the drivers number.

I live on my own with my little girl and feel a bit stressed about this. Aibu to think its weird? Should I complain or could it have been an accidental misdial? I did think this at first but this afternoonwas thinking he told me I wasnt his last drop he still had a few to do - my number wont have been the last one he called i he was going to be early for others?

I am quite anxious about being alone with my daughter as it is - I only separated from my husband 6 months ago and dont feel secure in this particular house. Its a bit too big and has very old windows. I have two large dogs but some nights cant sleep dud to hearing noises and imagining the worst.

Do delivery drivers use their own phones or are they issued work ones? Its a big supermarket chain. I dont want to report someone for a mistake but a 5.30am call is weird isnt it!????

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Celebelly · 08/04/2018 16:10

I'd assume it was just a mistake. I also think that if someone was ringing for sinister reasons, they wouldn't do it at 5.30am as most people will have their phone on silent overnight I'd imagine. I certainly do! I wouldn't give it any further thought.

Isadora666 · 08/04/2018 16:11

You're over thinking it. If he was "after" you surely he'd have left a message or tried to contact you again?

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 08/04/2018 16:12

As a one-off I wouldn't be too concerned as it was most likely accidental. However, if you had more calls from the number I would investigate further.

TomRavenscroft · 08/04/2018 16:15

Yep, I think he arse-dialled you too.

MrMeSeeks · 08/04/2018 16:15

I think you’re over thinking. I’ve accidently rang people when not looking/half asleep/sat on it etc

cardibach · 08/04/2018 16:16

I understand that living alone with a small child can make you feel vulnerable - I did it myself. However, it’s a huge jump from a phone call - even if deliberate, which this probably wasn’t - to someone smashing windows to get in to you.

PuppyMonkey · 08/04/2018 16:17

Grin at arse-dialled.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 08/04/2018 16:17

If he still has your number isn't that a GDPR issue? I would call the supermarket and say you had a missed call from the driver and ask if they were trying to get in touch with you.

Mrsmadevans · 08/04/2018 16:19

It was a mistake . OP you must have done the same thing yourself surely.....

PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 08/04/2018 16:19

Ah, I see Firstaidnovice has already raised the GDPR issue far more eloquently than me!

Shoxfordian · 08/04/2018 16:22

Sounds like an accidental call and a huge overreaction.

Buglife · 08/04/2018 16:22

I’d assume the delivery mobile is a work issues one and shared amongst drivers so he wouldn’t have it overnight himself, and someone else on a shift made a misdial.

ems137 · 08/04/2018 16:22

My DH has been a delivery driver for shops and supermarkets. He 90% of the time used his own mobile to call customers. This was because there either weren't enough store phones to go round or the PDA they used to call from was also the SatNav device and calling someone would stop the map completely.

I'm pretty sure that he's accidentally valued a customer before when he was deleting his call log at the end or beginning of the day.

Your driver may have been getting ready for work this morning and was deleting his call log from yesterday and accidentally hit the call button. It's easily done 😊

BrendasUmbrella · 08/04/2018 16:25

5:30am would be a very strange time to deliberately call someone. The most likely explanation I agree is that he was getting up for work and managed to accidentally dial your number. Without a lock code it can happen easily.

Let it go, but if he calls again answer it, and then you'll know if it's something innocent or something you need to take action over.

PrettyLittIeThing · 08/04/2018 16:25

I live alone with my kds and wouldn't be scared if this happened to me so I definitely think your over thinking it/worrying for no reason. Even if it was an accident (which I'm sure it was.)

JaniceBattersby · 08/04/2018 16:30

My three year old son Snapchatted my boss at 6am today. It’s so easily done. I wouldn’t worry about it at all.

Original poster
GeeGaw42 · 08/04/2018 16:31

Thanks for all the replies everyone - it has made me feel so much better and get it back in proportion. Especially re the use of work mobiles and recharging/used by other drivers!!

I realise i do sound a bit ott - its a hangover from the ex im afraid - he was always ridiculously over the top about me watching my personal safety, warning me i would attract stalkers at home by not pulling curtains on etc. to the point i couldnt be friendly with anyone (male) as i would be making them think i fancied them!! Its a difficult mindset to free yourself of added to genuine feelings of being vulberable alone.

Thank you everyone i will def stop winding myself up!! 😑

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ravenmum · 08/04/2018 16:33

I have bluetooth headphones, and if you press the volume button on the headphone for slightly too long when changing the volume it sets off "redial last number", causing me to leap up and run around like a madwoman trying to find my phone and cancel the call. Lots of ways to accidentally embarass yourself.

Takfujuimoto · 08/04/2018 16:37

I agree it's most likely a misdial, you are probably on high alert from the behaviour you had to put up with from your ex so it's understandable.

I once misdialled my area manager with my arse one early morning whilst singing the flower duet to my DC Blush

It happens, try not to let it worry you.

LizzieDarcy1907 · 08/04/2018 16:41

I agree with most other PPs on here - I'd let it go this time and assume it was an accident. He may not have had to ring any other customers after you so you would have been the last number dialled. If it happens again, contact the Supermarket immediately.

LaurieMarlow · 08/04/2018 16:43

Almost certainly an accident. Don't panic.

BMW6 · 08/04/2018 16:45

My DH often arse-rang my mum while he was delivering milk. Luckily not at too ridiculous an hour.
She'd ring me later laughing about how she knew it was him cos she could hear classic fm, the sound of the milk float and chinking of bottles every few moments. She'd yell into the phone but he couldn't hear her.

Firesuit · 08/04/2018 17:37

I know this isn't the issue, but any reason not to have phone do-not-disturb settings so that you wouldn't be woken?

My phone lets me set a schedule (I use 11pm to 7am) for the settings and I can select whether anyone, contacts or favourites can have their calls ring during that time, and separately, which of those groups messages have audible alerts.

Derlei · 08/04/2018 18:01

If he misdialled and didn’t realise, and OP and rejected then th call, shouldn’t she have a voicemail of him shuffling about (or whatever)?

Ariela · 08/04/2018 18:25

Derlei Not necessarily, I had a phone that frequently dialled the last number seemingly of its own accord, so sometimes I'd not immediately notice - say I was plugging in the charger, I'd definitely not touched the screen yet suddenly I'd hear a phone ringing noise, but by the time I'd worked out what it was and realised it was my phone doing its own thing it'd have rung a fair while before I turned it off.

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