To feel disappointed in the response from family?

[Undercoverbanana]

This weekend I have achieved something quite special and note worthy. My friends have been so happy for me and full of joy and congratulations. My family know how important it was, but meh. Half-hearted meh. No enthusiasm meh.

I feel a bit numb at their lack of happiness for me.

I know the world is not all about me, but I feel somewhat deflated.

Celebrate with your family-of-choice = friends.
Well done, whatever it was!

Ok - changing my approach to this.

I know I am awesome and no-one is taking that away from me. I will celebrate with those who “get it”.

I will continue to cheerlead others even if they don’t reciprocate.

My life. My rules.

Don't look for others to share your joy.....people love to knock others down.

I look for my family and friends to share my joy, just as I share theirs. I think it would be quite soul destroying to live with people who couldn’t get excited about what excites you. Not the sort of supportive environment that makes life wonderful in the good times and keeps you all going through the bad.

OP if this isn’t very out of character I suspect you’ve been pigeon holed in the family as the one who provides support and people have forgotten you have your own needs. It seems common for families to do this to mums. Perhaps you need to explicitly tell them you are upset by their reaction and you expect more effort from them in the future if they want to be a significant part of their lives. Point out for them exactly when you’ve done similar for them.

An alternative is that you’re constantly doing things that seem to require admiration and people have become a bit inured to it.

I think this is rubbish. My husband is very good at cheerleading me himself, and also getting the kids to do so- buying champagne, making a card, having a celebratory meal for really big life events or achievements. It's something they have to learn really- and likewise, we celebrate all their events/achievements too.

Why is your partner being an arse about it all? Couldn't you two go for a drink or get a takeaway in with some bubbly to celebrate? I'd kind of be pushing for it, as life's a bloody hard grind and when something great happens, it's nice to celebrate!

Thats the way to do it banana, you rock!

Congratulations on your achievement, OP! Well done!

I think it's perfectly reasonable and rational to be disappointed at your family not showing any interest. We are social animals, rejoicing in each other's success (rather than, say, picking nits out of each other's fur) is how we bond, and just like any other social species we expect to have close bonds to family. I'm sure a baboon would be just as disappointed if its sibling refused to groom it.

The good news is that your friends are happy for you. But understandably doesn't take away the sting of family not doing their bit.

Even so- well done, OP!

God, my mother was actually bitter when my older sister graduated as a mature student. Nothing would surprise me with families.

Well done, OP. Sporting achievements are fab.

Perhaps your family doesn't realise they are being like this. Because it's still not clear exactly what you've done. So it's a bit difficulty to judge whether or not your family is being disinterested. But your friends have supported you.

It depends. If you rarely talk about it, and have worked really hard, then yanbu. But, if they're bored of hearing about it, yabu.

parkrun PB or milestone run? If so, my family don't really get that sort of thing. My husband would, as he is obsessed with running. Well done to you, OP, whatever it was!

I suppose it depends what it is really. A friend posted on FB that she was really proud of herself for having done C25k (she was a runner a few years ago). She's a cancer nurse; a bit of running is probably the least impressive thing she did that week!

Some people don't set much store by achievements in hobbies. I'd be one of them, tbh I kinda don't care about friends'/family members' marathon times etc. But if they gain a significant qualification or big promotion I'll be all over that. It's just different priorities. Celebrate with people who share your hobby, they'll be genuinely happy for you I'm sure.

First off, whatever this sports achievement is, well done and congratulations! Whichever sport, martial arts, running, and. Fitness type etc, that takes a lot of hard work and self discipline.

It would be nice for your family to share in the joy of your achievement. I’m sorry they haven’t reciprocated your support.

As others have said, enjoy the moment for yourself, don’t worry about those that don’t, and know that your friends that are happy for you shared it with you.

“or Ms. Fitness type,” stupid autocorrect!

Congratulations
I would ignore your parents' reaction, parents are often difficult to please.
Your DD might be too busy at the moment, tell her about it again with lots of details etc and give her a chance to celebrate your achievement with you when she is back.
But your DP .....
mine will get a very hard time for something like this.

Is it martial arts? The grading scare the pants off me! Whatever it is, huge congratulations. Treat yourself.

Obviously we all have different priorities, but if someone close to me had a success in something that was of no interest to me but clearly was important to them, I'd be delighted for them. I'll qualify that slightly by saying that if the other person had talked of nothing else for many months my enthusiasm might be slightly diminished but still, if it makes them happy, I'd be very pleased about that.