To want to beat him around the head with Sophie La girafe?

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Ok, so the title is in gest but the irritation is real!

Just returned to work. Partner had never looked after her for a full day (mostly dictated by circumstances - he's usually pretty good, loves her to bits and is hands on; although occasionally requires prompting!).

However, the last couple of days he's been with her whilst I've been at work, or whilst doing chores/errands.
Here's the AIBU - this morning he basically dictated to me (that's how it felt, hormonal maybe?!) How I should play with her, what toys she likes and handed me that bloody giraffe....aibu to beat him around the head with it and tell him to give over!!!! And to top it off...DDs first word was "dada"

NB. This isn't a post bashing DP, just looking for some support/solidarity from other mum's (or dads) this happened to!
And I hate that bloody giraffe! With it's weird stary eyes.

Ah well he’s proud of himself! My dh regularly reminds me how to pack the dishwasher! No idea why as I completely ignore him.

Go bash

I got a picture of a medal, increased it to A4, printed it and handed it to DH when he started banging on about him doing something I did thousands of times without blinking.

Most baby’s first words are dada. It’s the first sound they make

It can be quite a useful quality in a man though! I say to dh that I can’t get the shine on the kitchen tiles like he can when he scrubs them so off he pops to do a better job and I sit and watch the tv.

Job done.

Not baby related but my ex told me that (my) cat liked to be stroked under her chin and actually showed me how she liked it. He had seen her for about 5 minutes at that stage. I should have seen the flags at that point!

Sounds a bit like my DP. He's lovely, loves our 8mo DD a lot and really cares about her, but he's just a bit lazy. I get very pissed off when I ask him to get up with her one day a week and he plonks her on the floor or in her jumperoo and ignores her and sits on Reddit for ages. He never thinks to make her food or milk and when I say 'has she eaten' he's like 'oh? Should she have?'

Then sometimes he goes to me, while I'm playing with her, 'are you SURE she's okay to play with that like that?' 'are you SURE that's safe?' 'should she be eating that much ham?' ranty rant.

He's good with the cat though as she's very clingy with him.

Actually no reading that back your DP sounds fine and I've made mine sound awful. He's really not, I'm just feeling veeeery slightly resentful at the moment

Burst his bubble by showing him all the links about Sophie Giraffe possibly being dangerous and tell him to do his research! safbaby.com/the-truth-about-sophie-the-giraffe-and-the-recall-rumors/

Otherwise just smile sweetly and remind him you've spent a fair few days playing with her already and "she's always been fine, but thanks for the ideas."

His reaction is probably one of a previously lacking in confident father suddenly realising that he can do it alone, and being incredibly proud of the fact. He's just trying to show you how competent he is. Irritating, but hopefully coming from a good place.

My dd’s first word was mama, she’s 15 months and still doesn’t say dada. She knows who’s got the good milk you see

Absolutely, he deserves many squeeze giraffe beatings for being so patronising!

DDs first word was 'mumum'. Mind you it helped that her own name was very similar so it was a sound she heard a lot.

Make sure you call DD2 Emma .

Feel free to bash him with whatever is handy.

Almost every baby says dada first. It’s not their first word, it’s just a noise.

If my DH were looking after the boys and wants to tell me which toy is the current favourite, that’s fine. It’s not a criticism of you. I try and avoid doing this with my DH but sometimes I do.

My mum's like this, about things like phishing. I say, "Mum, I'm far more tech savvy than you, can you please stop teaching me?" She's basically said she won't.

Haha! Thank you all. I feel less like I may be overcome with giraffe based rage now! I guess he is proud and feeling more confident but it was still bloody patronising. Oh, and we have several cats - tells me how to parent them too

God I hate Sophie. Its legs are all WRONG and one of them is much longer than the other 3.

My husband says he’s just proud he’s figured things out! We had a similar situation. When I went back to work and he took parental leave, really I’m just glad he’s so capable with DS now though.