TO think that it would be nice to receive the odd nice comment from DH

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We have been together 15 years and married for nearly 10. DH is a lovely dad and a good hubby but very rarely I get comments such as ‘you look nice’, or ‘thank you for cleaning the kitchen’ etc. When he looks at me and I think a nice comment might be coming .. .. I get a ‘‘your posture is so bad’ , or ‘your tummy looks big ’ Etc and then he wonders why I get the grump! he reckons I’ve gone off sex a bit cos I don’t fancy him but it’s because I can’t feel close to someone who is so negative all the time and it doesn’t do much for my self confirdence! He is supportive to a certain extent, but just wondering if this will be the norm now! We both work (me part time) and have two lovely girls. I tell him nice things every day. What do other MN ladies experience? Thanks in advance.

He sounds pretty critical to me

Its the negative comments which are the problem here. I wouldnt expect to be thanked for cleaning the kitchen but I certainly wouldnt put up with being spoken to like he does to you.

Have you had it out with him?

Hi- yes napqueen- we have had two rounds of counselling (over the years) ... the first he was quite positive in the end).. the second lot everything was negative!

I'd find this hard to live with i think. I accuse dh of being grumpy sometimes, but actually he is really complimentary and does comment about things I've done around the house, or tells me I'm doing well in my career or that I'm a good mum etc - plenty of really nice comments. In fact, I'm probably the one who doesn't voice this type of thing as much about him...

I agree with others that it's the negative comments (rather than just the lack of positives) which is really unkind.